Am I getting old or is this horribly wrong?

[mhsjax]

That's the problem. People see it as something that everyone else is doing, so it's accepted as the norm. Thus, it must be ok. It isn't cool to question it or to reject it. If you want to fit in, or win in this case, you follow the herd.

But that isn't what I said. I have repeated said that I think they could have toned the dance down. But when the question came up about how far they would have to go when they were 15 this was my answer. If when they are 15 and the style is very conservative then that is what they will dance.

I have never followed the crowd, I just don't get all worked up over a dance routine. Probably because they were so good at it, that their talent was all I could think about.

I wouldn't let my DD do another cheerleading organization that is here because of all the moves that they did and some of the coaching techniques that I had heard about. I have never conformed, and thank goodness, neither had my DD. If she doesn't want to do it, then there is nothing in the world that will change her mind. I am lucky that way.

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

I know I said I was out but it's a commercial! See now a post like this is kind of harsh and putting after it doesn't change the intent. She is expressing her opinion that she finds it inappropriate and wouldn't allow her child to participate.

No, she is judging people who disagree with her. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but we all need to respect differing opinions. I have told her in this thread that I respect her opinion. She does not offer the same courtesy.

I asked that question to try and determine her motive. It is simple. She has her idea how this should all work and she is going to criticize anyone who isn't willing to conform to her ideals. Not because of any danger to these girls, but because she knows what is best for everyone.

 

[kidshop]

Hey! Turn on Joy Behar she talking about it right now!

 

[mhsjax]

OMG, that was really disturbing.

What kind of parent lets their 7 year old get tarted up in lingerie and thigh high stockings

Not to be nit picky, but it had more coverage than a bathing suit and those were most certainly not thigh high stockings. A few of the girls had them right above their knee, and of them actually had them below her knee.

 

[Mermaid02]

Hey! Turn on Joy Behar she talking about it right now!

What was Joy's opinion? I rarely agree with her....

 

[mhsjax]

Hey! Turn on Joy Behar she talking about it right now!

Make you a deal, if Joy Behar says that is was horrible, then I will change my mind. Whatever that woman says, I go the exact opposite. lol

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

First of all, those girls are GREAT dancers! Really, their parents should be proud of their talents.

But those costumes are ridiculous. They're 7!!! I could see those on adults and I wouldn't have a problem with it but that's awful.

Some of those moves weren't great either, in terms of being inappropriate. Even when Beyonce does that, I still wonder if Jay-Z is OK with that.

 

[kidshop]

Make you a deal, if Joy Behar says that is was horrible, then I will change my mind. Whatever that woman says, I go the exact opposite. lol

oh crud it was the very end.! But Joy said something about having the parents arrested!

 

[Wall-E1]

Yeah, guess I'm ancient. I found that so beyond inappropriate. I think the parents either need to be stoned in the town square or drawn and quartered. What parent in their right mind would let their seven year old daughter dress and dance like that? It reminds me of that show called Toddlers and Tiaras. I've watched a few minutes of that show before I felt like I needed to hurl. There are some sicko people out there that are not fit to parent. That video is so not okay on so many levels.

 

[Planogirl]

I think that the outfits could be better and they could cut out the swiveling hips but otherwise I thought it was a good performance. Those girls are good!

 

[declansdad]

I think, although I do not presume to speak for others, that what soemof us are trying to say is that even though these little girls don't even know what 'sexy' is, that there are some creeps that will look at the dance and costumes in a sexual way. That sexualizes these young girls, whether intentional or not. I don't think that just because they danced this dance that they will become strippers or promiscious.

The creeps that would look at this in a sexual way would look in that manner no matter what these kids were wearing.

 

[luvmy3]

I showed my dh the video and he didn't have much to say except thats disgusting.

 

[kidshop]

The creeps that would look at this in a sexual way would look in that manner no matter what these kids were wearing.

so there is no such thing as inappropriate clothing or inappropriate actions for children?

 

[DisneyBamaFan]

so there is no such thing as inappropriate clothing or inappropriate actions for children?

Yep, that's what he said.

 

[MM27]

The creeps that would look at this in a sexual way would look in that manner no matter what these kids were wearing.

It doesn't matter who is watching. The moves are not age appropriate and frankly, neither are the costumes. All that's missing from that stage is a pole. I can't believe a parent would be okay with their little girl on that stage doing those moves, wearing that outfit.

I wonder what song they will dance to next?

 

[mhsjax]

I can and do understand the objection to the dancing, but for the life of me, I can't get past the outrage at the costume.

 

[declansdad]

It doesn't matter who is watching. The moves are not age appropriate and frankly, neither are the costumes. All that's missing from that stage is a pole. I can't believe a parent would be okay with their little girl on that stage doing those moves, wearing that outfit.

I wonder what song they will dance to next?

The costumes, other than the boots, are less revealing than many bathing suits.

 

[declansdad]

so there is no such thing as inappropriate clothing or inappropriate actions for children?

What I said is that it wouldn't matter what they were wearing or what they were doing; the creeps would still get their jollies.

 

[luvsJack]

I can and do understand the objection to the dancing, but for the life of me, I can't get past the outrage at the costume.

Me either. I don't find a whole lot wrong with either of them as you will see most of it at any dance recital or competition. But the costume thing really gets me and I ask again: what do some poster's girls wear to swim in? And exactly what are you all expecting them to wear on stage? Someone mentioned gymnasts--their leos can be WAY more revealing than these costumes. Those are little boy shorts and a little top that shows the child's belly--they are not "revealing" as THERE IS NOTHING TO REVEAL!

Do any of ya'll have cheerleaders? What do they wear??

 

[Eeyores Butterfly]

This never would have flown at my dance studio. I think for me, the problem is just the total package. The moves were not appropriate, but one or two on their own would not have been as bad. The costumes were too much, but in a different dance would not have stood out as muc .

Yes, when I danced I wore costumes that did not cover much more- but our costumes did not look like something out of a lingerie catalogue. My problem isn't just with how revealing (and we certainly had more conservative costumes when we were that age), it's the idea that they look like undergarments you would wear on a honeymoon.

We also would not have been doing so much thrusting, shaking, butt dropping, etc. Way too inappropriate for that age. The girls have wonderful technical skills. I don't know many girls who could do a triple pirouette. But it's hidden in all the nonsense. It takes zero dance training to do some of those shimmies, anybody who has been to a school dance could tell you that. That routine have showcased their skills so much better. Instead, there were a few complicated moves hidden underneath a lot of silliness.

As for the comment about parents not knowing, in our dance school we had two way mirrors in every room. Parents could see what you were doing the whole time (which is how it should be imo). You were also given copies of your music and encouraged to practice for your family. I don't see how parents could not have known.