Frances999
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Feb 6, 2004
I've just returned from a short trip back to Bath and came home to some pretty annoying news.
As some of you know, we moved out here temporarily for 10 months due to DH's job. Recently, we were told that there might be the opportunity to remain here indefinitely which, whilst at first declining, grew on us to the point where we were ready to apply for the green cards.
Now we have been here for almost the full ten months - the time to figure out the next stage is approaching rapidly. Yesterday, DH got a letter from his boss. They want DH to remain in San Francisco for a further 18 months to 2years and then return back to London after that.
Our children are happy, adjusted, challenged and, beginning, to settle down into our new environment. Before they (and we) become too settled I wanted to either go back to Bath or have confirmation that we could stay here if we wanted to.
I'm not happy with the two year idea. I think that after two years we will be far too settled to want to start moving around again. In my mind, there are two options only - go home next month or stay here for good. DH thinks that I should consider the idea more carefully. There are benefits, after all - his salary will be considerably higher and we are living in a gorgeous home rent-free. However, I think the social and educational disruption to our children will be unfair and I can't imagine how they would feel two years down the line when faced with leaving everything here behind and returning back to England where everything else will have moved on by three years.
I've spoken to some of my friends about this and they think I am being perfectly reasonable, but I know that they will support me regardless. I'm interested to know what you think, am I being annoying and fussy or are my worries genuinely reasonable?
Thanks for any advice/input!
As some of you know, we moved out here temporarily for 10 months due to DH's job. Recently, we were told that there might be the opportunity to remain here indefinitely which, whilst at first declining, grew on us to the point where we were ready to apply for the green cards.
Now we have been here for almost the full ten months - the time to figure out the next stage is approaching rapidly. Yesterday, DH got a letter from his boss. They want DH to remain in San Francisco for a further 18 months to 2years and then return back to London after that.
Our children are happy, adjusted, challenged and, beginning, to settle down into our new environment. Before they (and we) become too settled I wanted to either go back to Bath or have confirmation that we could stay here if we wanted to.
I'm not happy with the two year idea. I think that after two years we will be far too settled to want to start moving around again. In my mind, there are two options only - go home next month or stay here for good. DH thinks that I should consider the idea more carefully. There are benefits, after all - his salary will be considerably higher and we are living in a gorgeous home rent-free. However, I think the social and educational disruption to our children will be unfair and I can't imagine how they would feel two years down the line when faced with leaving everything here behind and returning back to England where everything else will have moved on by three years.
I've spoken to some of my friends about this and they think I am being perfectly reasonable, but I know that they will support me regardless. I'm interested to know what you think, am I being annoying and fussy or are my worries genuinely reasonable?
Thanks for any advice/input!