Am I being too sensitive? Be honest :)

[delilah]

Personally, alot too sensitive. Most people, unless they are your most intimate associates, would not know the circumstances of your first pregnancy. Nor, would they care. They are not devaluing the life you carry, but they do value their own life and family.

Last summer, I was in the circumstance of your coworkers. One of my coworkers took a looong maternity leave. So long that had she delivered on time and taken a standard six week maternity leave, she would have been back to work by the time I had my vacation scheduled Memorial day week. She delivered by C-section two weeks before her due date, and had her panties in a bind in a major way that I wanted to take my vacation,which was actually booked and planned before the deed that resulted in her pregnancy. I never said anything to her about her maternity leave, but, I am still steaming about her attitude that I should change my vacation plans to accomodate her needs.

 

[Stacerita]

Sometimes people say rude things without meaning to do so. They probably thought they were being funny or cute. I wouldn't let it get to me if I was you. And yeah, maybe you are being a bit to sensitive. But you have every right to.

 

[rigs32]

I might agree with you if it was your family or very close friends making those comments - people who likley remember the first birth and want to be a part of your new child's life.

The workplace is for just that - work. If I earn vacation time and coordinate weeks with my husband who has to bid for vacation a whole year ahead of time, losing that one time together is going to be pretty frustrating. Do I understand that you can't control it? Of course, but I will be resentful if I have to stop living my life to accommodate yours.

 

[LaLa]

don't think co-workers are insensitive at all. my life & many others has been affected the past year by a pregnant intern. we were put in a position to have to carry her workload as well as ours when she delivered early. deadlines couldn't be met, lots of angry people huffing down our necks for an overdue project. women of childbearing age can sometimes create havoc for others they're involved with--not that they INTEND to, but its a mess for others to come behind them & pick up the pieces. maybe your co-workers see the handwriting on the wall? & yeah--all you women go ahead & rip me a new one. like you haven't given me enough grief this year. i say pregnant women should stay home.

Think I'll grab some popcorn and wait for the fur to fly...

 

[justhat]

Ya know, you're probably being too sensitive, but I think when you're pregnant that comes naturally. Heck, I was crying at a Lifetime movie on Sunday night! I would just joke back that you're trying to work with everyone's schedules and shrug it off. I really don't think they mean any harm at all, it's just that people always have comments for pregnant women.

 

[tevagirl]

don't think co-workers are insensitive at all. my life & many others has been affected the past year by a pregnant intern. we were put in a position to have to carry her workload as well as ours when she delivered early. deadlines couldn't be met, lots of angry people huffing down our necks for an overdue project. women of childbearing age can sometimes create havoc for others they're involved with--not that they INTEND to, but its a mess for others to come behind them & pick up the pieces. maybe your co-workers see the handwriting on the wall? & yeah--all you women go ahead & rip me a new one. like you haven't given me enough grief this year. i say pregnant women should stay home.

Brandon, Brandon, Brandon. Say that to an 8 month pregnant woman and there won't be anything left to rip on you.

 

[Stacey2grls]

How rude of them to say that! Some people really do not think before they speak. I wish you all the luck in the world with your new baby. God bless, and good luck!

 

[Planogirl]

I don't think that they mean to be malicious (or at least I didn't until I read Brandon's post) but seriously I'd let it slide.

 

[swea_pea1]

I remember people saying this like this to me as well. I'd usually answer with "I know, my 10 or 12 hours of labor will be so inconvenient for YOU! I'm so selfish that way." Follow it up with a hearty har-har. It usually lightened the mood and made me feel a heck of a lot better.

 

[Lil_Tink]

I dont really have anything to say but hope you have a great pregrancy..My cousin is preggo and having a girl...Best of luck..

 

[FreshTressa]

It doesn't sound malicious. Annoying, but not malicious.

I have never worked around people that weren't annoying in some way, lol, so we just have to put up with each other if we want to keep peace.

 

[ClarabelleCowFan]

Slap the next person that says anything REALLY HARD then burst into tears and blame it on your raging hormones! That'll stop the comments for sure.

 

[LaLa]

Slap the next person that says anything REALLY HARD then burst into tears and blame it on your raging hormones! That'll stop the comments for sure.

 

[yeartolate]

I don't think their comments were malicious. They think they are being funny, just not succeeding. If it bothers you alot, say something (remind them of your prior pregnancy) have a group hug and get back to work

 

[In a hurry]

Mom of a preemie here. I find that most people live exclusively in their own world. I would just say that early babies are not a joke, and move on. Most probably have no clue about what they are doing.

 

[wilderness01]

Yes you are being too sensitive but aren't most pregnant women sensitive? I too had the same jokes and I too delivered two premature babies. Just shrug it off. Maybe they do know or remember the situation with your first baby, but really it is only important to you and not to them. Silence speaks volumes and I would just look at them with the next comment and not say a word. As far as someone's vacation goes, well that is the most important thing to THEM. Just like this is the most important thing to YOU. And before anyone goes blasting me, I do think human life is more important than a vacation. My only point is that no one has the right to decide what is more important for THEMSELVES. People are selfish, no matter how you look at it. That is just life. I will go you one better. When I was sitting in the NICU next to my daughter my boss came up to me and said "I guess you got out of working Christmas after all". Well wasn't that nice? I just looked at her and said nothing. It was such a rude comment. With my first pregnancy I had fallen at work. While I was hooked up to the monitors and they thought I was abrupting (life threatening emergency to both mother and child), my boss wanted to know from the L&D nurses approximately how long I would be off of work. This was at a different job, but just the same mentality. My point is that people only really look out for themselves or their best interests. Or sometimes people have the best intentions but just say stupid things. That is the sad truth. So just blow off comments and have a good rest of your pregnancy.

 

[mickeyboat]

When I was PG with Hannah, I was hospitalized at 31 weeks and delivered at 34 weeks. It put a lot of stress and extra work on my co-workers, and even though I had no control over it, I felt bad to impose so much on them. I understood that even though what I was doing was more important than a vacation, the world and their lives did not revolve around me, and I should not expect them to re-arrange their lives around mine.

That being said, I think it is rude for them to be saying anything about it. You have no control over the situation, and you are in a fragile emotional state, which should be respected.

Good luck! When I was PG with my second I just knew she would be early too. I had Hannah's first birthday party over a month early, just to make sure she got one before the new baby came. Emily was born two days before her due date.

Denae

 

[cats7494]

Thank you all for your honest opinions, I do appreciate them.
Like I said in a previous post - I never actually say anything rude to my goofy co-workers..I just smile and say "it is not up to me" or "I will try my best!"

As for Brandon - he is certainly entitled to his opinion. I do not agree with his opinion at all...but I am not going to argue with him. Neither he nor I will change our minds.

 

[MamaLema]

You're 8 1/2 months pregnant...you're allowed to feel how you want!

BTW, your co-workers and insensitive

 

[minkydog]

Yes, I think you are being overly sensitive, but then you ARE 8-1/2 months pregnant Kinda goes with the territory. Cut your co-workers some slack. They're just making conversation, for Pete's sake. They're not trying to be annoying or hurt your feelings. They have no idea what you went through with your previous pregnancy, even if you gave them blow-by-blow details last time. It wasn't their experience. I think when they say something assinine you could just let it go and consider the source.