Am i being selfish?!

[Cariadbach]

Probably not the best place to ask!lol!but people keep telling me im selfish for planning hubbies 40th bday at DLP.
They say its not really for him but for me and the kids,well yes,thats true but its also a big birthday and how many people (apart from my mum!)have celebrated their 40th more than once????
But am i being selfish?im planning on staying at NPB as he made a comment about wanting to stay there.I suppose really im wanting a good trip there to counteract the negatives from our dreadful trip this year!
Wow,iv waffled!!

 

[DLPdaft]

If what you're planning at DLP for your OH's birthday celebration is what he'd really like to do for his birthday, then No, you're definitely not being selfish .

 

[aj2703]

^^ But if what you are planning is more for you and you know that if he had a choice he might go elsewhere, then YES you are being selfish. Not being rude but it's his birthday, you should do what you know he would like.

Just my opinion though

 

[Trevski220]

Again not wanting to be rude, but it sounds like what you are planning is more what you and your children would like?! If you could think of anywhere or anything he'd prefer to go/do then yes you are being selfish, if you can't then no you're not being selfish!

But if people you know are telling you it's selfish I'd suggest that they are pretty sure that he'd prefer other things, I certainly wouldn't want a trip to DLP for my 40th, this despite the Fact that I do like DLP!

 

[MissP]

I don't think you are being selfish no! He can enjoy some family time and watching his kids face light up time and time again is going to be so amazing anyways! If you think you may be being selfish though, would you not conisder maybe going into Paris for the day and visiting the Eiffel Tower or maybe shopping at Val D'Europe and let him buy himself a little something from there that he would like?

Everyone who is saying about being selfish - You do not know the situation - Maybe she can only have one holiday and is trying to combine it to be a special birthday and a holiday the kids will enjoy (not saying you can, just a perhaps!!) or maybe she knows that everybody loves Disney and knows her husband will love it no matter what - Its the thought that counts and he obviously wants to go back to mention going back to the Newport Bay in the past

Besides you could always have a nice meal before you go or when you come back to celebrate his birthday with friends/family.

 

[Trevski220]

I don't think you are being selfish no! He can enjoy some family time and watching his kids face light up time and time again is going to be so amazing anyways! If you think you may be being selfish though, would you not conisder maybe going into Paris for the day and visiting the Eiffel Tower or maybe shopping at Val D'Europe and let him buy himself a little something from there that he would like?

Everyone who is saying about being selfish - You do not know the situation - Maybe she can only have one holiday and is trying to combine it to be a special birthday and a holiday the kids will enjoy (not saying you can, just a perhaps!!) or maybe she knows that everybody loves Disney and knows her husband will love it no matter what - Its the thought that counts and he obviously wants to go back to mention going back to the Newport Bay in the past

Besides you could always have a nice meal before you go or when you come back to celebrate his birthday with friends/family.

You are quite right I don't know the situation, but the op asked for opinions and that is what I've given.

If it is the only trip of the year, then all the more reason to make sure it something he really wants to do ( it is his 40th ), if the op has people telling her it's a selfish choice and they aren't not people on here Im presuming it's friends and or family who know the OP and family and who I'd presume would know the situation better than any of us.

To me the fact that the OP is even asking the question suggests they know this isn't the first choice, but as I said before if you know that he wants to go to Disney then you are 100 percent not being selfish, if you know he'd rather go elsewhere then perhaps you are?

I'm certainly not trying to be controversial awkward or rude, merely giving an opinion which the OP asked us all for

 

[MissP]

I did not intend on sounding nasty or rude, I was only giving my opinion too!

I understand what you mean about by asking in the first place she must know it is not first choice but as I said, she could spend a day in Paris and have a meal once they get home.

I would assume the husband would want to be with his family on his 40th - It is a tough decision - Maybe try throwing the hint about Disney and see what he says? Then you will know how much he would like to go back!?

Sorry if I sounded rude on impolite, I did not mean to

 

[Cariadbach]

Thanks guys problem is he doesnt want to do anything he said,we always end up going somewhere the kids would like,for my last birthday we went to watch Thomas the tank engine at the Cinema,and for his we went to Cadbury World!

 

[Trevski220]

I did not intend on sounding nasty or rude, I was only giving my opinion too!

I understand what you mean about by asking in the first place she must know it is not first choice but as I said, she could spend a day in Paris and have a meal once they get home.

I would assume the husband would want to be with his family on his 40th - It is a tough decision - Maybe try throwing the hint about Disney and see what he says? Then you will know how much he would like to go back!?

Sorry if I sounded rude on impolite, I did not mean to

I certainly did not think you were being rude , we were both just expressing an opinion!

 

[Trevski220]

Thanks guys problem is he doesnt want to do anything he said,we always end up going somewhere the kids would like,for my last birthday we went to watch Thomas the tank engine at the Cinema,and for his we went to Cadbury World!

Well perhaps as MissP said earlier then, he'd take most pleasure out of seeing your children having a great time, in which case it certainly would not be selfish.

 

[gemma85]

Does it matter what other people think. He's your OH you should know him better to what he would enjoy. Tell these ppl to mind their own business

 

[Trevski220]

Does it matter what other people think. He's your OH you should know him better to what he would enjoy. Tell these ppl to mind their own business

Totally out of order!!

 

[gemma85]

Totally out of order!!

How?? I'm giving my opinion and saying that it's her oh birthday and if family holiday would make him happy then why should ppl say she's selfish

 

[Trevski220]

How?? I'm giving my opinion and saying that it's her oh birthday and if family holiday would make him happy then why should ppl say she's selfish

You are saying the OP should tell people ( other posters including me ) to mind there own business, The OP specifically asked for opinions! You can't ask for opinions then say mind your own! And in fairness the Op isn't saying that, you are, and that is out of order

 

[gemma85]

You are saying the OP should tell people ( other posters including me ) to mind there own business, The OP specifically asked for opinions! You can't ask for opinions then say mind your own! And in fairness the Op isn't saying that, you are, and that is out of order

I meant to the people who have told her she's selfish. That's what she put in original post that people keep telling her she's selfish. I made a reply to her post. I didn't even read your post to her

 

[Trevski220]

I meant to the people who have told her she's selfish. That's what she put in original post that people keep telling her she's selfish. I made a reply to her post. I didn't even read your post to her

Well I'm afraid that wasn't made very clear, hence my reaction, if you had read the full thread then you may have realised that your comment could be interpreted differently, anyway all well that ends well.

 

[gemma85]

Well I'm afraid that wasn't made very clear, hence my reaction, if you had read the full thread then you may have realised that your comment could be interpreted differently, anyway all well that ends well.

Well reading the posts, most people said she wasn't selfish so it's up to the the person who started thread to decide who she can take replies. I will make sure to read the whole thread before I make a reply to any questions stating my opinion

 

[aj2703]

Well reading the posts, most people said she wasn't selfish so it's up to the the person who started thread to decide who she can take replies. I will make sure to read the whole thread before I make a reply to any questions stating my opinion

It might be an idea to yeah, saves confusion.

 

[gemma85]

Well I'm sorry to everyone on this thread if I caused anyone to be offended

 

[Trevski220]

Well I'm sorry to everyone on this thread if I caused anyone to be offended

I wasn't offended, just a bit shocked, but appreciate that you meant no harm with you comment.

An apology is not required.