Am I being selfish? (LONG post!)

[liznboys]

Doesn't sound like you're being selfish at all. Sometimes we have to just ignore what our parents say or how they act, afterall you're an adult not a child anymore. I know it's hard to go against what your mom feels though. It's a shame your mom feels that way, she's wasting precious time just enjoying you as a daughter. I know a mom who's like that sometimes! Go and have an AWESOME cruise!!!!

 

[fantasymagic]

Not much I can add to the others' advice. I think that not only should you go on this cruise guilt-free, but if you start a trend now where you take a week vacation by yourself every year, then down the road when things get difficult with your parents' health and the whole caregiving issue, you will at least have your week to yourself because you've set it up now.

Pixiedust to you. By the way, is it a Disney cruise???

 

[EsmeraldaX]

Originally posted by Jenn Lynn
No, you are not. Sounds like your Mother is.

Have a great trip!

I'm almost 30 , single, no kids and I plan to stay that way as does my DBF. HIs mom treats us the way that your mom treats you.... (ie. We aren't married or having kids therefore we have no lives and should bow to her every whim... )

Have a great cruise!

 

[izzy]

I wanted to thank everyone for their support! I've probably painted a worse picture about my mom than I should have, but it's just been so frustrating for me in the past few years. She's the type of person that if I tell her I want to have a vacation by myself every now and then, she'll decide that she shouldn't bother me on *any* of my vacations, and that's not what I want her to think. I do enjoy her company - I just think that I need some alone time on my vacations every now and then. My mom loves to travel (and my dad won't travel anymore), so the only opportunity she gets to go somewhere is if I'm going there.

With regard to my brothers, you can bet your sweet bippy that when/if the time comes my parents need extra help, the brothers *will* be helping me, even if I have to throw one of my famous "baby of the family" fits. (Even at 40, I'm still known as the "baby" which ensures me certain priveleges - LOL!!)

Anyway, I'm going to get rid of the guilt and just go enjoy myself. (BTW, it's not a Disney cruise - OMG, did I really just admit that on a Disney board?!? Yikeroonies!)

 

[cinmell]

Originally posted by izzy
Anyway, after listening to me droan on and on about this, do you think I'm being selfish?

Not at all! Enjoy your cruise .

 

[Dizkneenurse]

Sister, you gotta live your life too!

You might feel some guilt now but that will all melt away in the ocean.

Enjoy yourself!