Chicago526
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I'm getting married in the Chicago area, and picked out a dress for my brides maids that was $169. This was at David's Bridal, by the way. I paid $149 for a dress to be a BM for my SIL six years ago, so I didn't think it was too out of line. And I've heard of BM dresses for $200 or even $300. But what do I know, maybe it was too expensive? 
Now, when we were shoping for the dress in December, I told the girls that if ANY of them had a major issue with the dress I picked out, to tell me and we'd find something else. I'm very laid back and I would not have cared if, at that time, any (or all of them) came to me and said "it's a great dress but it's too much money". I would have been happy to pick out something less expensive. I repeated this several times, that if there was a problem with either the style or the cost, to let me know. They all said they loved the dress and had no problem.
I also said that I didn't care what shoes they got, as long as they matched the color of the dress, which is red. Red shoes aren't that hard to find, they did not have to get shoes dyed, which of course is more expensive. They all did anyway. I also did not require them to get their nails or make-up profesionaly done, and the only requirement for hair was "up". This means that if they want to do a french braid and just have the end tucked up so it's not dangleing down, that's totally cool with me (and I told them all that!). Now, I'm going to an expensive salon for my hair, for several reasons I won't go into here. I told the girls that they do NOT have to get there hair done there if they don't want to, because it IS very expensive. But they got it into their heads that I shouldn't be "alone" for any part of my wedding day (actually I was looking forward to being alone!), and that at least one of them would "have" to get their hair done with me, and were basicly drawing straws because none of them wanted to pay that much. Fortunatly, I worked it out with one of the BM's that she would just stop by and hang with me while I got my hair done after she gets her's done, so crisis averted.
I also told them not to throw me a bridal shower (didn't want one). They didn't, but spent a TON of money on the bachlorette party (I had a blast, and really appreciate it, but they didn't have to do anything elaborate like that).
Now, I spoke to one of the BM's today. Two out of the 4 bridesmaids complained (behind my back, AFTER the dresses were bought, paid for, and altered) that they thought they were too expensive, the third said it was a bit high but not too bad (she's the one I spoke to about this). Don't know what the 4th thinks.
So, after giving them a years notice to save up, and letting them all know that if they had a problem with ANYTHING, to come to me about it, they now all think that this is all too expensive BUT don't want to complain to ME because they think that A) I'll freak out and yell at them or B) I'll get upset and/or offended. I've always told them to come to me with any concerns they have and that I wouldn't CARE if they didn't like something, we'd work it out!
So, am I the crazy one, or are they the ones that are nuts?
Now, when we were shoping for the dress in December, I told the girls that if ANY of them had a major issue with the dress I picked out, to tell me and we'd find something else. I'm very laid back and I would not have cared if, at that time, any (or all of them) came to me and said "it's a great dress but it's too much money". I would have been happy to pick out something less expensive. I repeated this several times, that if there was a problem with either the style or the cost, to let me know. They all said they loved the dress and had no problem.
I also said that I didn't care what shoes they got, as long as they matched the color of the dress, which is red. Red shoes aren't that hard to find, they did not have to get shoes dyed, which of course is more expensive. They all did anyway. I also did not require them to get their nails or make-up profesionaly done, and the only requirement for hair was "up". This means that if they want to do a french braid and just have the end tucked up so it's not dangleing down, that's totally cool with me (and I told them all that!). Now, I'm going to an expensive salon for my hair, for several reasons I won't go into here. I told the girls that they do NOT have to get there hair done there if they don't want to, because it IS very expensive. But they got it into their heads that I shouldn't be "alone" for any part of my wedding day (actually I was looking forward to being alone!), and that at least one of them would "have" to get their hair done with me, and were basicly drawing straws because none of them wanted to pay that much. Fortunatly, I worked it out with one of the BM's that she would just stop by and hang with me while I got my hair done after she gets her's done, so crisis averted.
I also told them not to throw me a bridal shower (didn't want one). They didn't, but spent a TON of money on the bachlorette party (I had a blast, and really appreciate it, but they didn't have to do anything elaborate like that).
Now, I spoke to one of the BM's today. Two out of the 4 bridesmaids complained (behind my back, AFTER the dresses were bought, paid for, and altered) that they thought they were too expensive, the third said it was a bit high but not too bad (she's the one I spoke to about this). Don't know what the 4th thinks.
So, after giving them a years notice to save up, and letting them all know that if they had a problem with ANYTHING, to come to me about it, they now all think that this is all too expensive BUT don't want to complain to ME because they think that A) I'll freak out and yell at them or B) I'll get upset and/or offended. I've always told them to come to me with any concerns they have and that I wouldn't CARE if they didn't like something, we'd work it out!
So, am I the crazy one, or are they the ones that are nuts?
