Especially if your DD will still be under 2 years old, I would not waste your only Epcot meal on Akershus versus something that you, DH, and the other 3 boys would enjoy more. Save the princess meal for another trip. Maybe at some point one adult could wait with DD ata princess meet&greet while the other parent took the 3 boys to a show or other activity.
Or a posible compromise, that would not matter so much which park you were at, would be dinner at 1900PF on any one ofyour days. Cindy for DD but the boys might enjoy Prince Charming and the StepSisters, who are hilarious. ---unless, of course, buffets are simply unmanageable right now with 4 young kids.