advise for disapline problems be4 disney?

[mickeyfan83]

i thought i'd find or mark a chart where she can earn money for disney - maybe 10 cents or 25 cents per sticker. and divide the day into 3-5 sections, morning afternoon night and maybe bedtime. 07 was a bad year and now shes confused, insecure and frustrated. do u think this might help get her back on track or do u have some other advise? this would obviously beon top of regular disipline.

 

[Elmo888]

How old is she?

I wouldn't pay her for good behavior - that just opens a can of worms where kids expect rewards for stuff that they are supposed to do.

Most advice I hear/read is to use a child's "currency". It will be different with each child and change with age. Currency is usually stuff (favorite toy) that a child values or privileges (tv time) that a child values.

For example, if my DD7 isn't ready to go to school on time (with everything done - teeth brushed, cats fed, shoes on, backpack ready, etc.), then she doesn't get to play with her neighbor friends, watch tv, or play on the computer in the afternoon. She really values playing with the neighbors, so this works pretty well most of the time.

The other big piece of advice that it is important is to be consistent. Whatever you choose, it needs to be the same every time so she will know what to expect. Once you give her the rules, do not waiver or she will start to expect it.

Good luck!

 

[tanyaandallie]

Honestly, without knowing your dd, her age, what has been going to make her insecure, etc. I think it's tough for anyone to give you discipline advice. Have you talked to your child's teachers? Maybe they would have some advice for you.

 

[GoinToDisney]

I agree that it is tough to give advice not knowing the whole story. However, as a teacher, we usually told parents to make the reward something like an extra bedtime story or some other quality time with you. The extra one-on-one time enjoying each other's company is really helpful.

 

[Elmo888]

Or maybe you could talk to her pediatrician.

 

[MSSANDRA]

I agree that it is hard to help with so little info but it sounds like right now that your child needs to be loved, reasured and made to feel safe more than a lot of discipline. If your child is going through a lot of stress, she is going to act out. Trying to reduce these things, might make the behavior issues better. I suggest what ever the age, trying to be very consistent in all areas of her life from bedtime to discipline. Tell her a 100X a day she is loved and praise every attempt at good behavior and remind her that she is a wonderful person. Find things that make her special and tell her about them. " Your pretty blue eyes light up my day". Don't foget to take care of you too. She need a parent to be strong in order to support her.