Advice what do I do?

[Gretel]

My youngest daughter who is 12 is having trouble with a girl who we carpool to dance with. Although she is nice in the car ( the girl we carpool with) my daughter says she is a total snot to her when I am not around, basically ignores her and wont dare lets "her" friends know she even talks to my daughter.

When I drop them off at dance my daughter goes one way and the other girl another. They both have there separate friends which is fine.

Today on the way to dance my daughter was a total snot to this girl and all I did was sit there and listen to it. Part of me was like I wanted to creme my daughter and the other part of me thought "you go girl".

Argh! am I making any sense? Anyone have a similar problem and solve it? These two are never gonna be friends and that is fine, but how do I handle the carpool situation. I have known this family for almost 10 years now.

 

[Pam]

Been there, done that. And I admit that I've even childishly added a few snippy comments to my DD's!

Can you get out of carpooling? That's eventually what we did. Let's face it - sometimes you just can like or get along with some people and it's just not worth it being miserable all the time!

And I despise the sneaky people that are real sweet to the adults faces and nasty and vile behind their backs!

 

[Kallison]

To me it wouldn't be worth the hassle, girls can be so mean. I would ditch the carpool and be honest with the mom why it isn't working out.