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[justaquestion]

I feel horrible.

I had to send out my niece's Christmas gifts late (money issues). They arrived on the 5th. My sis was out of town until the 4th. It was either get them there by the 22nd of Dec, which I couldn't afford, or send them when I did so she'd be home (Jan 4th). (she lives in another state)

I sent them FedEx. It was a lot of stuff (I felt bad for being late so tried to make up for it.)

I tracked them on FedEx and saw that they were delivered and signed for on the 5th, but haven't heard anything.
I tripled checked the address, I'm sure it's right.

Should I ask if she got them?? I'm worried a neighbor may have signed for them and not told her or something.

Or should I just assume she was annoyed with me for being late (rightfully so) and call it a day?

 

[Anewman]

"Annoyed" because a "GIFT" was late??

I am sorry I do not understand that concept, I can never be annoyed with someone that sends me a GIFT.

 

[Todd&Copper]

I would call and see if she got them. I think it is rather petty to be so miffed at getting a GIFT late that you can't be bothered to acknowledge your receipt of it.
Speaking of which, my Grandma hasn't called or sent me a note acknowledging my gifts to her - I might have to give her a call when I get home from work.

 

[piglet too]

I would call and ask her. Let her know you are concerned that someone else may have signed for it. If she is not calling just becasue you had to send it late, well that is plain rude.

 

[ckay87]

IMO - She's your sister. Given your close relalationship:

A - She had BETTER NOT be upset with you for sending a gift late. If she were, I wouldn't send anything again. That's just greedy.

B - Ask her. My sis and I shipped a ton of stuff back and forth and asked each time, just to be sure. Why risk it. Would she really be offended?

 

[mickeyfan2]

Call.

 

[OceanAnnie]

I'd call. She shouldn't be miffed, IMO. I wouldn't be overly apologetic either.

 

[escape]

I'd ask her about it. So you were "late". Big Deal. It's the thought that counts! You sound like a very loving and considerate aunt.

 

[r3ngels]

I can't imagine being mad at a realitive for a gift being late... especially with her being out of town.

She is probably just buzy with getting back in town and catching up.

 

[Bobsdisneymoney]

A gift is a gift!! I think it would be really silly to get angry about being late! I would give her a call. Just say that you wanted to be sure that she got it. If she sounds mad, just say that you are sorry! I would rather know that it got there. I have an uncle that sends my kids gift about 4 or 5 months late. They don't care! They just get a gift later. It's not about getting the "STUFF". It is about the thought that you care about the people! Good luck, let us know what happens!

 

[Iluvthemouse]

I am in the minority here.

First I want to say I would call and find out. I think it is great you even sent them out Fedex and made a good attempt to get them there in a timely manner.

As far as being late, I am on the receiving end of that with my sister. She has yet to send her neice (my DD) her Christmas presents. It is now January 15th. I am pi$$ed. She can go out to eat dinner every night, she can run all over town and she lives a few miles from a post office but she cant send them out. I got her son's gifts to them ontime. It is rude and inconsiderate even if they are "gifts" and just the way my sister is. It is one thing if it was money but her and her DH make twice what we make. She is just lazy and the worse part is she thinks it is "ok". Oh and I told her small things so there wouldnt be but a small box. At this point I dont want her to send any "gifts" to DD. It isnt about the "stuff" but it is about having some consideration and respect for others.

 

[justaquestion]

I am in the minority here.

First I want to say I would call and find out.

As far as being late, I am on the receiving end of that with my sister. She has yet to send her neice (my DD) her Christmas presents. It is now January 15th. I am pi$$ed. She can go out to eat dinner every night, she can run all over town and she lives a few miles from a post office but she cant send them out. I got her son's gifts to them ontime. It is rude and inconsiderate even if they are "gifts" and just the way my sister is. It is one thing if it was money but her and her DH make twice what we make. She is just lazy and the worse part is she thinks it is "ok". Oh and I told her small things so there wouldnt be but a small box. At this point I dont want her to send any "gifts" to DD. It isnt about the "stuff" but it is about having some consideration and respect for others.

That's what I'm worried about.
She is aware that I don't have tons of money, but I'm afraid she'll think I'm rude. Although I hope she doesn't think that I think it's "ok".

I'm going to send an email, she's at work right now.

Thanks everyone, I'll let you know!

 

[azgal81]

I would call and ask about them. Why would she be mad they were late a gift is a gift you are under no obligation to get them for anyone.

 

[Mari annie]

I always send return reciepts myself as well.
My brother in law works in the post office and told me since so much goes on, more than I can say I return reciept anything I mail! (ie gifts/returns)no reg mail!

After you found out it's been delievered, I am sure she's busy......just give her a call, nice to talk to family anyway!




Happy Trips to all!

 

[arminnie]

I don't think it's any big deal at all that you sent the gifts late. Sounds as if you had reasons to do that. It's not like those were their only Christmas gifts.

BUT - I'm not sure why you are so upset that you haven't gotten a thank you/acknowledgement yet. It's only been a few days since she got the gifts. I am still writing and receiving thank you notes for gifts received in mid December.

With all of the hassle of putting up Christmas (and she was out of town) most people don't sit down and write thank you notes the minute they get a gift. Most don't do it ever unfortunately.

If you are really just concerned that the package arrived by all means ask her, but I wouldn't give her any hassle about taking a few days to acknowledge a gift that was late to begin with. It makes it sound like it is okay for you to be late but not her.

 

[wilderness01]

I would call as well. What if she doesn't get your e-mail?

 

[justaquestion]

I don't think it's any big deal at all that you sent the gifts late. Sounds as if you had reasons to do that. It's not like those were their only Christmas gifts.

BUT - I'm not sure why you are so upset that you haven't gotten a thank you/acknowledgement yet. It's only been a few days since she got the gifts. I am still writing and receiving thank you notes for gifts received in mid December.

With all of the hassle of putting up Christmas (and she was out of town) most people don't sit down and write thank you notes the minute they get a gift. Most don't do it ever unfortunately.

If you are really just concerned that the package arrived by all means ask her, but I wouldn't give her any hassle about taking a few days to acknowledge a gift that was late to begin with. It makes it sound like it is okay for you to be late but not her.

I'm not upset that I didn't get a thank you. I couldn't care less about that.
It's just I usually do (by phone, not cards), and I'm just a little worried she maybe didn't get the gifts, or may be upset with me for being late. She's at a new address this year, and I haven't sent anything to her there before this. B-days were before she moved in July.
I don't think I suggested I would hassle her about thanking me. That's why I'm just sending an email to make sure they are there, and I'll leave it at that. I don't think it's okay for me to be late and not her.

 

[justaquestion]

okay, I will email:

"what's up sis? hope you guys are well.
Sorry for the delay with the gifts. They should have arrived by the 5th.
If you didn't get them, let me know.
Othewise, enjoy the toys!!!

Love you guys and talk to you later!"


good?

 

[jbmom]

I would just call. I would just be happy to get a gift.

 

[justaquestion]

I would just call. I would just be happy to get a gift.

she's easier to get a hold of through email, and I don't want to put her on the spot!

thanks all!