Advice please! Too long for Pop Daddy

[Microcell]

I often worry that I am overstepping, and this is another case of that. DD's friend who lives next door (whom I often refer to as brat because she is bossy and a know it all and mean to my DD at times) is apparently being picked on at school. She told my DD that there is a girl who is being mean to her.

Last year this girl was being mean to my DD and not speaking to her at all on the bus home from school and I got annoyed about it and posted here. I thought she was being picked on then and when I talked to her mom about it last year, she was suprised anything was wrong because her DD did not say anything about it. At that time I asked if everything was okay at school for this girl since she was in a foul mood at the end of the school day and maybe someone picked on her, and her mom said that was not a problem.

So now that I have more confirmation I wonder if I should mention to the mom (we talk every day) that her DD has actually told my DD or if I should mind my own business?

My biggest concern is that this girl has a serious heart problem and probably will not live too far into adulthood. A transplant is probably in her future and you only get 10 years most out of another heart. I hate to think that she has to be miserable in childhood. The other part of me says her mom probably knows and talking to her about it might just be rubbing salt in the wound.

Tell me what you think.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

i would let the mom know

if i didnt with my luck something would happen to the girl and i would feel awful

 

[Briarmom]

As a mom, I'd want to know. Especially since you talk to her every day. Tell her.

Good luck!

 

[Blondy876]

That's a tough one. Maybe instead of bringing it up as a seperate topic you could squeeze it into the conversation. Perhaps you could say

"My your dd's name is having a pretty good year, she is really enjoying her favorite subject. How is your dd's year going, my dd says she's noticed another child being mean to her? I hope that hasn't caused her year to get off to a rough start?"

I'm sure you could be more tactful than what I typed but maybe that give you an idea of what I mean't.

 

[Microcell]

Should I maybe put it this way:

"My DD told me your DD is having trouble with a girl at school. Want me to beat her up? I know a couple of ten year olds..."

 

[Microcell]

That's a tough one. Maybe instead of bringing it up as a seperate topic you could squeeze it into the conversation. Perhaps you could say

"My your dd's name is having a pretty good year, she is really enjoying her favorite subject. How is your dd's year going, my dd says she's noticed another child being mean to her? I hope that hasn't caused her year to get off to a rough start?"

I'm sure you could be more tactful than what I typed but maybe that give you an idea of what I mean't.

So the post below you might be a little to hard hitting and blunt?

 

[Blondy876]

Should I maybe put it this way:

"My DD told me your DD is having trouble with a girl at school. Want me to beat her up? I know a couple of ten year olds..."

I love it!

So the post below you might be a little to hard hitting and blunt?

Probably. But I still like it.

 

[Microcell]

Last night they were playing and she just burst into tears and my red flag came up about school problems, and commented on her maybe having a long week at school. Then this AM DD was talking to me and I was talking about this girl and her know it all bossy ways and how it was not allowed in this house (you guessed it, my DD took that tone with my DS and that does not fly here) and how people in general don't like being treated that way. I keep waiting for DD to take the hint that she should not allow herself to be treated mean. Anyway, my DD just said "Susie is being bullied by a girl in her class" Then we did the did you see or did she tell you.. She had told.

Kids can be so mean.

 

[Pop Daddy]

hi sexy , thats so sad, I hate bullys and just cant stand it when kids have serious health problems