Advice needed. Disney meeting lastnight

[dianeschlicht]

Originally posted by MsDisney23
I will wait and see what happen's, not sure how much time to give her. whoever goes in her place now has to pay $100.00 as there is a change fee. I already have her airline ticket and all. I just am upset with this. A phone call goes along way. I will give her a week, if she does not call me by then, I think I will just find a replacement. Then if and when she calls I will tell her very nicely that I was not sure if she was interested in going and that it was rude on her part not to show or at least call. I mean say something. I also wonder now if when the time comes for us to go that she would just back out? However I will wait and see what happens......... Urg.

WHOA! What happened to being nice? I would NEVER do that without first talking with her. What makes your ways "seem right"? It is a horrible way to handle things. Give her the benefit of the doubt and TALK TO HER first!

 

[Pembo]

Please just call your friend. I'm thinking that if I was her and I didn't know anybody else going except you ~ that would be a little awkward. And then you were having this meeting and she had to be late, again awkward.

Call her, talk to her. See where she is. Maybe she is just feeling insecure about the whole thing. Maybe plans have changed and she doesn't know how to tell you she can't go. Maybe she has no idea that you are stressing over all this.

Just call her.

 

[momof2inPA]

Maybe she just forgot.

Maybe someone's sick at home.

Maybe she rushed her son home because he had homework to do and thought she would be too late to the meeting, but she thought it would be rude to call past 8:00.

I would give her the benefit of the doubt, but I would definitely call. Say, "We missed you at our little meeting, what happened?"

 

[mommytotwo]

Try calling her to find out the real reason behind her not showing up and express your feelings to her. Since there were other people that wanted to meet her before they traveled with her it would have been nice for her to come even if she was late. I think that it is rude to not attend something like that since it is informative, and it is rude to the person planning everything.
I would go ahead and find a back-up like your husband has mentioned.

 

[MsDisney23]

OK here it is, I called her like some of you had advised. I was beginning to wonder if anything bad had happened.

I call, she answer's the phone as though nothing was wrong. I said Elaine is everything allright as we missed you lastnight. Her response was I told you. I told you that Patrick had guitar lesson.

My response was yes you told me that he had guitar lesson from 7 to 7:30, that you would then take him home and then be over. i did tell her that I was upset and felt that a phone call would have been in order. I also told her that the girls waited here until 10:00 to meet her. She then told me that she had to go home and make dinner for the boys. She said oh well I got tired.

I kindly explained to her my feelings and that I was hurt and very concerned. She did apologize and realized her mistake.

I told her I am not perfect and have made mistake as well. so lets just put this bed and start over. So we will get together for lunch and give her an update. We are even going to go to the movies. She said she will be at the next meeting.

 

[Robinrs]

All these hurt feelings for nothing...

Hope you can work this out. This person obviously does not see this as a priority.

 

[zurgswife]

Good Luck.....

 

[hentob]

Glad you guys worked it out.

Still, I don't know. Why didn't she tell you she was going to go home and make dinner? Did she just remember she had to feed her boys after the guitar lesson? Didn't she lead you to believe she was coming over after the guitar lesson?

And the "Oh well, I got tired" seems a bit strange. Actually, it sounds down right rude. People were waiting on her, for crying out loud. How close of a friend is she? If I got tired and _my_ friend was expecting me over (to plan a trip that SHE was giving me or for any reason) I would care enough to call. Oh well, maybe she was never taught proper manners?

Wonder how she will be on the trip.........

Again, good luck!


Hentob

 

[Antonia]

Hey, if it doesn't work out - I'll volunteer to take her spot. I don't have any kids to make dinner for. And I have $100. I can be ready at a moment's notice. LOL