Advice about a 7 yo???

[CamColt]

What do you do when your kids continue to do things you tell them over and over not to do?
I must tell my DS at least once a day not to throw things in the kitchen/living room/dining room areas. Its not a really huge deal, but it could be dangerous if glass got broken or something like that. Ive taken away whatever it is hes throwing, Ive given time outs and the like but nothing seems to work. Does anyone know what it takes? Thanks for any advice.

 

[binny]

:hugs:

sorry,I dont have any advice. When you figure it out will you let me know?

 

[mickeyboat]

I hope some miracle cure is posted on this one. I spent 45 minutes trying to get DD3 to get in bed and stay in bed last night. I wonder if banging your head agains the wall helps. It may be as effective as what I was doing.

Denae

 

[JESW]

I think it ends when they move out. (well, at least you can't see it then) Sorry, no advice..I have a DS9 who still does things like that...and more! Have you ever seen the Bill Cosby act where he talks about brain-damaged children? (mmm, that's probably not very p.c. now...) VERY funny and he talks about that kind of stuff.....telling them over and over not to do things and then they still do them and when you ask them why they just say - "I don't know".

And the summer has only just begun....hang in there!!!

Jill

 

[Trish Bessette]

What about taking away something he likes to do? Does he play with other neighbors? Take away play time. I do that with my 7 year old DD. She doesn't throw things but her mouth can get her in trouble

She is not happy when neighbors come to the door wanting to play and only her older sister can go out. That corrects her behavior quickly!

 

[CamColt]

Thanks for the advice, everyone. Seeing that there are others in the same boat does help. Its just so aggravating when you say something day in and day out and still see them acting like they have no idea what they are doing is wrong.

 

[shortbun]

My DS is almost 9 and I have to remind him about things all
the time. I was just saying to DH last night that I forsee
the mother of all consequences so this child knows I mean
business. I'm going to plan the consequence so that it doesn't
inconvenience me so much but it will be big, like TV/screen time
gone for several days including computer,gamecube, cartoons.
DS normally has 2 hours daily allowed(in the summer) and can earn 1/2 hour extra after doing two hours total of school type activity. I'll be playing some games but each time he looks at a screen, he'll remember to listen to my words. It should work.
That's my plan anyway.

 

[Dan Murphy]

Just wait till they are 30, I am still waiting.

 

[r3ngels]

I would love to know I tell my DD also 7 not to eat anywhere but the kitchen EVERYDAY... at least 20,000 times and last night she couldn't sleep because she had cookie crumbs in her bed. I use the word crumbs loosely because the where huge chunks of cookies. My DH and I are constantly asking why we can't just say things one... he wants to get our 4 yo's hearing check... I say she is fine just selective listening

 

[r3ngels]

P.S. I am so glad to know I am not alone and it is not my parenting skills.

 

[TinkBoo&ElliesMum]

My DS is on thin ice ALL the time, for him it's listening. He's so in his own little world all the time and has so much going on in his head that he's just sure we need to hear it all. He talks from the moment he drags his bum out of bed until his eyes finally give up and close on him. We can ask him to do things over and over and he just doesn't get it!

Between the 7 year old and the 2 year old it's a miracle I don't have more gray hairs.

 

[Snowysmom]

My two DS's, 14 and 18 are STILL throwing things around the livingroom. Older DS is making up for all the time he was away at college. If I can catch whatever it is they are throwing, at least it slows them down for a while.

 

[mickeyfan1]

I would take whatever he throws and put it away, so that he can't have it again. My mother used to do that to the kids in her classroom, if they brought something in that they were not supposed to, or they were playing with something, it was hers. Till the end of the year. You may end up with a bunch of his favorite stuff, maybe that will help. Also, a 7 year old doesn't have a good grasp on the concept of time and reminders. He may remember what you tell him for a while, but then they get into their Legos, or rockets, or whatever and forget. By taking things away, it makes a better impression. Of course, he WILL start throwing his brothers stuff to test you, but that's the rule of kids!

 

[BriarfoxinWA]

I wish somebody had an answer to keep the kids from throwing things around the house! It started when my oldest was 3 - broke my favorite carousel horse music box by throwing balls in the house...he's almost 14 - still does it...

My 8 year old is just as bad - and even DH will do it sometimes...You won't find many nic-nacs around my house - they don't survive long.

There are times I just have to leave the house

 

[Pembo]

When you find the answer let me in on it! My 8 yo and 5 yo have the same selective hearing problem.


btw TinkBooandEllie's Mom - - Congrats and I love that Picture!

 

[hrh_disney_queen]

Gosh, I am truly not alone! I thought it was just our crazy family. DS4-I kind of expect having to tell over and over and over and over.....again. But DS6, who is very intelligent (DS4 is too, just not as mature-haha) can remember things that happened 2 -3 years ago.(I can't) He can remember what order the planets are in.(I can't) He can remember the entire script of Shrek. (I don't want to ..) But tell him to do (actually, mostly NOT to do ) something, and you have to do it again, and again, and again...I actually had his hearing checked because I thought that was the problem-nope, hearing is great...If you whisper "would you like a cookie?" from across the room, he's there..If you speak (in any tone, or volume, tried all...doesn't matter.) "stop doing...."..."could you come here?"....anything like that..it falls on deaf ears. And the behavior is repeated again and again and again. Timeouts don't work. A swat on the behind doesn't work.


I'm sorry about this, but I am so glad that I have company in this situation!!

Whoever comes up with the answer could write a book and make millions!!

 

[ElizK]

You could hit him in the pocketbook, so to speak. Tell him you're going to charge him a dollar every time you catch him throwing in the house. My girls were somewhat motivated that way.

 

[TinkBoo&ElliesMum]

Originally posted by Pembo



btw TinkBooandEllie's Mom - - Congrats and I love that Picture!

Thanks Belle thinks she's her own little doll. So she picked a flower for her!

 

[TinkBoo&ElliesMum]

oops - double post, sorry!

 

[AuroraluvsPhillip]

When they're younger I swear they do it to test your patience (wanna see Mom freak out???)
They really become deaf when they're teens. My kids walk into the house and dump everything in the kitchen and dining room, jackets, hats, shoes, backpacks, magazines...etc.
I have really lowered my expectations to save my sanity...is this worth making such a big deal over? Payback will be when they have kids....heeheehee...