Adoption Anyone?? (Update - see P4 #57)

[4greatboys]

Great news!

 

[Dznypal]

as my sister and brother in law as anxesiouly awaiting the arrival of their third adopted child!!! (actually our whole family is!!!)

They have 2 boys now both from Vietnam and Kalee is coming from Korea.

For the boys they had to travel to Vietnam to pick them up. (they were adopted at seperate times) so the first time my sister and bil went and were for 3 weeks!

My parents rented a van like that would hold our family (there were 12 at the time we are now 20!!!!) and a driver so we all went to Ohare to pick everone up. There we are with balloons and flowers--snowsuit and all---there was a lady waiting to pick someone up and she said if this is what I think it Im going to cry!!! she was so nice!!


the second one my mom and bil went!!! and were there for 3 weeks! its a good thing they get along good!!!!

From Korea they send the babies with an escort so we'll go to Ohare to see her in!!!

Shouldnt be much longer now!! She should be here by the end of OCt at the very latest!!

to everyone

 

[Dan Murphy]

What wonderful news!!!! So very happy for you guys.

And good wishes for your family there too, Dznypal.

 

[ZachnElli]

So you decided to go domestic?? Congrats!!! I'll pray your wait is as short as ours was! Less than 4 months after the homestudy was done!! Can't wait to hear that you are expecting!!

 

[luvthatduke]

That is so great!
I am excited for you as I remember how
DH & I were after we submitted our profile.
This will be such an amazing time of expectation for you!
Blessings!

 

[mrsgus06]

I also am an adopted mom. I did not go looking for them. Kelsey and Hailey were originally my stepdaughters and Logan is their little sister (same mom, different dad). Their mother passed away 3 hours after having Logan. Logan's biological father left before she was born so we knew he did not want to raise her. I don't think my husband and I even talked about who would be raising Logan, it just felt right that she be raised with her sisters. So, with that being said, she was number 6 for us. (his, hers and others) It will be four years ago next month. I can't decide if she was the easiest delivery or the hardest. I have adopted Kelsey, Hailey and Logan and hubby has adopted Logan. We now feel complete. I love them all the same, whether I gave birth to them or not. Logan started 4K this week (yes, she is early, but tall for her age) and I cried just like I did when all the others started. I think adoption is a wonderful thing. I never really considered adoption before because I had a ds and dd biologically and with so many people wanting to adopt, I felt I would be taking away from them. Did that make sense? Congrats on your decision and I hope all goes well with the process. I hope to see an update soon!

 

[cindrelly31]

Dznypal: I am so happy that your family is growing more. Your Sis and BIL must be so excited to have this little girl enter their lives. I have many little girls in my life and am secretly wanting the boy. I will pray the end of Oct that your new niece has a safe flight. (I always cry also, so you are not alone. It is such a wonderful idea to open a home to a child who needs one.)

ZachnElli: If I could ask, would you PM the experience you had not waiting so long. (The emotions, excitement, nervousness, idea of when to have shower, etc.) The agency we are using (in CA) has an avg of 6-12 month before you have your child. (2-5 month before chosen by B-mom)

mrsgus06: I think you are a wonderful family for taking in Logan. I would do the same and not think twice. We sort of have with my sister (she is 20Y younger!) My mom works evenings sometimes and other times is not the most attentive mom. My sister stays with us as much as we can get her and not make mom feel useless. We would adopt her, but my mom won't release her with out a fight. Longer story. I give you many kudos for being an adopted mom!!Don't feel guilty for adopting when you already have your own. It takes a strong family to adopt a child and an even stronger child to adopt a family. I hope your children realize the jewel they have in you when they are grown.

Thank you for all the support. It really helps. I look forward to sharing the stories of our child's adventures to WDW and DCL. Keep looking up, good things come from Above.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

Just wanted to chime in here that we are adoptive parents to a beautiful little girl Autumn-Verona, her picture is in my siggy. We have had her since birth and just had the JOY of finalization yesterday! Life is soo good right now and we are all so happy.

 

[cindrelly31]

Just wanted to chime in here that we are adoptive parents to a beautiful little girl Autumn-Verona, her picture is in my siggy. We have had her since birth and just had the JOY of finalization yesterday! Life is soo good right now and we are all so happy.

I am SOOOO happy for you and DH!!!!!! And the exciting news of #2!! Wow. I hope you celebrated in a big way with family and forends last night. Or at least have BIG party this weekend!!

 

[marlasmom]

I am very happy for all of you who have chosen to adopt. They are very lucky children.

Since I have been involved in social services here in Florida I have learned that once a child is 8 or 9, he or she is virtually unadoptable.
Everyone wants babies - which I totally understand. I would myself. However, I wanted to throw it out to you that there are thousands of kids that need a home.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

Cinderelly: thanks for that we had a small celebration just DD, dh and i last night and because of the long day in court we had a wonderful time just spending the evening at home!!

Congrats on you and your DH in your choice to adopt it really is a great thing!!

MarlasMom: After we move to a bigger home, DH and i are really considering adopting an older child we are looking at 10 or 11 possibly! just something we have always wanted to do! thanks for posting that info and letting others know!!

 

[cindrelly31]

I am very happy for all of you who have chosen to adopt. They are very lucky children.

Since I have been involved in social services here in Florida I have learned that once a child is 8 or 9, he or she is virtually unadoptable.
Everyone wants babies - which I totally understand. I would myself. However, I wanted to throw it out to you that there are thousands of kids that need a home.

When are ready toadopt a second child I would like anolder child also. Maybe from Poland or from here in States. Will decide that when time comes. I just once want to experience the "joys" of having an infant . . . the sleepless nights, midnight feedings, messy diapers, constant worry that you are teaching your child proper manners, etc

 

[cindrelly31]

Ok, we are done with the homestudy. Everything sent to agency. Should be up on web next week. Let the fun begin!!!!!

Now if I thought I was an emotional wreck before, I am notlooking forward to being matched and waiting. I almost wish we could just ask to be put on a list for Birthmom's who make the decision at hospital. I am so worried that when we get matched, as time gets closer, she will change her mind. My DH says to put all my worries to God, but that is hard. I try.

If anyone would like link to sight when we are up, send me a PM and I will add you to the list.

How are everyone else's adoptions-in-prgoress going?

 

[AnaheimGirl]

Congrats on completing your homestudy and moving on to the waiting phase!

I'm an adoptive mom. I have an 8yo bio dd, and a 2yo adoptive dd. Like someone else said, I think my (secondary) infertility was the best thing that ever happened to me, because my 2yo is such a joy!

We adopted domestically, because we wanted our child to have access to her birthparents for questions, etc, as she grew up. We found a wonderful local agency that advocates open adoption and grew very excited about it. We waited just over a year from the time we submitted our profile to the day we got the phone call. Ironically, we were chosen by a woman who didn't want any contact with us, which was highly unusual with this agency. We waited another 2.5 months until our dd was born. We were asked not to come to the hospital until after her bmom was discharged, as she didn't want to run into us, so we met our dd when she was 36 hours old, and took her home. We then waited 12 weeks for her birthparents rights to be terminated. Although we have no contact with her birthparents, we do have their full names and last known addresses, so (hopefully!), that will make it easier if/when our dd decides to search for them.

Our agency gave us a "waiting" time frame of 3-18 months after submitting a profile. I didn't want to get my hopes up too soon, so I always went under the assumption that it would take 18 months, figuring I'd rather be pleasantly surprised early, than jump every time the phone rang for an entire year. Knowing that one of her birthparents could decide to parent, I also didn't get myself too excited about it during that 2.5 month wait between getting picked and the birth. Can you tell I don't like to set myself up for disappointment? But once we took her home, she was mine, mine, mine! I mean, we understood that we'd have to give her back if either birthparent decided to parent her before their rights were terminated, and we would have, but we loved her so completely! I remember the very first night we had her home, sitting in the rocking chair with her in my arms, and telling my dh "I've already forgotten that I didn't give birth to her", that's how identical my feelings were for her, as compared to my bio dd.

Aw shucks, I'm getting weepy here, remembering! Good luck to you! Keep yourself busy so the wait doesn't drive you nuts! You are in for the ride of your life!! :

 

[Freyja]

Just wanted to congratulate you on your decision. Having a child is truely the greatest blessing in life.

Good luck with everything!

 

[GailT]

The wait will be well worth it. I am hapy for you both, nothing like a childs smile or even just the look in their eyes.

 

[cindrelly31]

I know it has been a while since I posted to this thread.

Well, the great news is the wait is over and we are the proud parents of a beautiful baby girl born on March 24 in southern Illinois. The Birthmom is a wonderful, strong lady who made a very heard decision, but made us very happy family.

We got the call on March 14 that a birthmother due March 31st was interested in only us and would not give any info to the agency until she knew we were available. On March 15 we spoke to her and I fell in love with her. She is in her early 20's and knows she is not ready for this responsibility.

When I spoke to her on March 23rd she was already dilated to 3. We came home and packed and waited for the phone call, that came about 18 hours later that she was admitted to the hospital. We arrived 6 hours after our daughter was born and she handed her to us with no after-thought.

We had to hang in Illinois for a couple weeks, which provided some great bonding time with DH & myself & baby. We went to court to become her official foster parents and the adoption will be finalized on Oct 2.

Yes, we did not wait very long. We were on the agency's website on Dec 7, 2005 and matched in 4 short months. It is the best "pregnancy" ever, not having to worry about her changing her mind and such.

My angel is now waking so I need to go cuddle with her. Thanks for the wonderful words of encouragement when I started this post. You are a great bunch and I am thankful to my wonderful SIL (DisneyPhD) for introducing me to this site.

 

[Holly]

Congratulations!

 

[AnaheimGirl]

Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you!!

 

[Thumpersmom]

Congratulations!!! It is sooo wonderful to be a Mommy. Enjoy every minute with your new little Princess!