Addressing your own thank you card

[thewebbs5]

And then we'd see ths post on the Dis: "Do you think this is tacky? I went to a shower where I had to fill out my address on the thank-you envelope. Then, when the thank-you came, the bride had written my address herself on a new envelope! Can you believe that? What, was my handwriting not good enough for her? Why did I both doing that when she was just going to re-write them anyway?!?"

I see someone has caught on. There is absolutely NOTHING on this earth you can do to please everyone. It's just not going to happen. Why get all bent out of shape over it? How does the host asking you to address the envelope = the bride/mom to be being ungrateful? I'm not even sure I understand how it is tacky. But then again, measured against the standards set by some, I obviously have no class or tact. I'm cool with it though!

I do however think the address book is a fantastic idea!

 

[*pixie*dust*]

I've been to many showers where they did this. Sometimes they use them for a gift drawing.

I have had the same experience.

 

[Sorsha]

It would have been interesting to know people's area of the country along with their opions on the topic. It makes me wonder if it is a regional issue.

I am from the Pacific Northwest/Upper Rockies. Small town, rural area, and it wouldn't bother me a bit. In fact, I think its a pretty nice idea, a good way to be sure no one gets forgotten.

Take it with a grain of salt though. I HATE thank-you cards. Hate sending them, hate receiving them. Waste of time, waste of trees. Usually, I just send an email, sometimes even a mass "thank you for coming and thinking of us with your kind gift" email. I don't hand-write anything anymore though... I believe we had this discussion around Christmas-card-season. If it can't be emailed, I don't send it, UNLESS it is to someone who has no email access. I honestly can't remember the last time I purchased stamps...

No, I am not kidding. And yes, I still have friends. Lots of them. Most of them do the exact same thing.

Yes, I am a heathen... so are all of my friends and acquaintances though, so I am in good company.

 

[thewebbs5]

I am from the Pacific Northwest/Upper Rockies. Small town, rural area, and it wouldn't bother me a bit. In fact, I think its a pretty nice idea, a good way to be sure no one gets forgotten.

Take it with a grain of salt though. I HATE thank-you cards. Hate sending them, hate receiving them. Waste of time, waste of trees. Usually, I just send an email, sometimes even a mass "thank you for coming and thinking of us with your kind gift" email. I don't hand-write anything anymore though... I believe we had this discussion around Christmas-card-season. If it can't be emailed, I don't send it, UNLESS it is to someone who has no email access. I honestly can't remember the last time I purchased stamps...

No, I am not kidding. And yes, I still have friends. Lots of them. Most of them do the exact same thing.

Yes, I am a heathen... so are all of my friends and acquaintances though, so I am in good company.

You are my hero!!!!!!!! :I'd be your friend!!!

 

[Mandychelle79]

I too hate thank you cards. I send them out for showers ( and yes my guests filled out their own envelopes, SOP here) but not for every little thing. Birthday gifts, telling me thank you at the party is more than enough. Christmas, not expected at all, unless its the day of thank you.

 

[C.Ann]

I think I did this at a baby shower once - but never a bridal shower..

The only reason it might rub me the wrong way is if the excuse was that the "bride and/or groom" felt it was necessary because they lead such "busy" lives.. A good portion of people being so "busy" is self-imposed.. They have plenty of time to send emails to everyone and their brother on a daily basis; fiddle around daily on Facebook; text and make phone calls 24/7; throw parties; take trips to Disney; shop for new clothes; and yes - even "DIS" for hours on end - yet they're "too busy" to write out their own thank you cards.. Hmmmmm...

"Busy" - or a matter of priorities??

 

[Jen_in_NH]

I don't mind it at all. Quite a lot of people around here do it.

But, I'm with the previous poster who hated thank you notes Just tell me thanks, call me sometime, or something like that. If I was sitting there when you opened your gift, and you said thank you then, I really don't need a note telling me the same thing later. I can see sending one to someone who wasn't there and sent a gift.

Just my thoughts. Clearly I'm in the minority here

 

[donaldsgal]

Is this something new? Just went to a bridal shower for nephew's future wife. They had you address your own thank you card.

Ohioan here - near Dayton. I'm not sure it matters. Now I'm realizing that some find it tacky, but this is very common among people I know. In the showers I've hosted, I've had the guests self-address envelopes (and then use that as a door prize drawing). The envelope thing is a good way to make sure no one gets missed when sending out the thank yous.

 

[C.Ann]

Forgot to add in my original post, I'm another one that doesn't really care about receiving a thank you card as long as you say thank you at the time I give you the gift..

Just don't give me the "too busy" line.. LOL..