Addressing Envelopes; What do you think this means?

[ginna74]

double post sorrrrrrrrrrry

 

[disykat]

so if you are being formal and they have no job what do you call them? I mean to say calling someone in a formal fashion mrs so and so is never wrong. If you want to call them something ELSE that is ok too but calling someone MRS and MR is never NOT appropriate. It is just a mater of respect, I was taught that in school. I also call people sir and ma'am ( to my elders mostly).

HUH? You always call them Mr./Mrs./Ms. Whether they have a job or not doesn't matter. However, if they have a job that bestows a different title, then the respectful thing to do would be to use that title.

You really think it is okay to address the President of the US as Mr.? I also can't imagine addressing my Pastor by Mr. I use his first name often, but if I'm being formal I use his title. I'm sure he would care much, but I think it'd catch him off guard if I did because he knows I know he has that title.

 

[CPT Tripss]

RN is a job title, not a formal address title. I would think those letters behind a name indicating qualifications would only be used in business correspondence. For some reason Drs. and members of the clergy were given a different formal address. I doubt it was meant to belittle others who don't have that address.

Tell that to Mister Randle Patrick McMurphy.

 

[Mouse House Mama]

HUH? You always call them Mr./Mrs./Ms. Whether they have a job or not doesn't matter. However, if they have a job that bestows a different title, then the respectful thing to do would be to use that title.

You really think it is okay to address the President of the US as Mr.? I also can't imagine addressing my Pastor by Mr. I use his first name often, but if I'm being formal I use his title. I'm sure he would care much, but I think it'd catch him off guard if I did because he knows I know he has that title.

If the POTUS was my sibling? I would simply address them by their name.

 

[DawnCt1]

If the POTUS was my sibling? I would simply address them by their name.

If my brother was POTUS, and I was writing to him, I would address the envelop "President X"
If I was talking to my brother in the private residence, away from others, I would address him by his first name.
If I were in front of the public, media or his staff, I would address him as President X or "Mr President".

 

[bumbershoot]

She's probably just not thinking about it...that's likely the best answer you're going to get, from people who aren't her.

My brother doesn't send cards, but if he did I'm sure he'd just send them with our first names. And even if he decided to waste the ink writing out last names, I doubt if he'd bother putting my Dr on the envelope. My mom would have, but my brother? Naaaah. Though I enjoy putting Esq after my SIL's name sometimes, but usually I address to them as The Them Family, or their names and their cats' names.

For that matter, I'm probably really way down on the list because I just mail it to her with first name/last name as she kept her maiden name when she got married & I never know how the heck to address the envelope. I always end up putting her name first since it's DH's sister & then her husband's name -- so it ends up Jane Doe & John Smith. I have a tendency to do that all the time even though I know it's not proper but I end up putting the blood relative's name first. Not *always* but a lot of the times.

I think you're actually doing it right. Something addressed to me and hubby would be, I do believe:

Dr Molly mylastname and Mr Robert hislastname

or

Molly mylastname and Robert hislastname


So I think you're doing it right.

My BIL has a doctorate and his wife is an MD. I address all correspondence to them as Mr. and Mrs. John Doe. I guess I don't see what he big deal is . I only see mine and DH's professional designations on the address stickers on our professional journals and on the agendas when we give a presentation in our field and wouldn't expect anyone to ever use them on personal correspondence.

On the other hand, Dr is a formal title that takes the place of Mr Mrs Miss Ms. So if you're going with formality, you might as well do it up right.

Sort of reminds me of when I worked in my state's vital records department. I had someone come in to get her husband's birth certificate. When we handed it to her, she got all upset because the title of Dr. wasn't on it. We had to explain to her that is just a title and not an actual part of his name. It took about a half hour of her complaining to the manager and being explained that we can't put titles on certificates before she finally left in a fit. Without the birth certificate. I guess he really didn't need a copy of it after all.

OMG that's hilarious.

Though maybe she thought his NAME was doctor? Kinda like the Up director, Pete Docter? (and I think in a Pixar special feature they mentioned that both his parents are actually doctors of some sort, which is too funny)

Sounds like you have a pretty rigid relationship for siblings. That's the type of relationship I have with acquaintances, not siblings. My siblings and I are welcome in each other's homes any day, any time without calling and without bringing something. I would feel pretty lousy if my sister or brother didn't think they could show up at my house without bringing something for me.

I do agree with that! My brother requires a 2 day drive or a flight to get to, but I could show up at his house 5 minutes from now, and aside from being REALLY surprised at my appearance there, I'd be 100% welcome. Especially since they keep the guest rooms closed up to remain as cat free as possible (they used to need notice to vacuum and clean and wash everything).

I would be thankful to be related to a doctor if my sibling wanted me to address them as Doctor. The reason I would be thankful is because I would surely need a medic to help me repair what I busted from laughing so hard at the request.

That would likely be my brother's reaction if I ever told him to call me Dr Molly.

I emailed my sister (an OB/GYN) and my brother in law (a dentist), apologizing profusely for not addressing my son's graduation announcements to Mr. and Dr. So and So or Dr. and Mrs. So and So (I think I addressed them to Mr. and Mrs. and Family in both circumstances).

Wait -- is this sister (OB/GYN) married to the BIL (dentist) or are they 2 different families? Wouldn't it be "Dr. sister & Dr. BIL"? It wouldn't be Mr. & Dr. or Mrs. & Dr.?

Oh thank you for figuring that out...the correct meaning was there, but I missed it entirely, and I was thinking "it's Dr and Dr!" Thank you.

 

[Imzadi]

Maybe because you are family? My son is a doctor and I never thought to put that on the envelope when I mail him stuff. Hmmm, hope he doesn't think it means anything.

Yeah, my brother is an eye doctor and I never really think of him as a "doctor" so I'd probably make the same mistake when sending them anything.

Of course his lack of"bed side manners" and I've that never been impressed in the level of his optometric skills may subconsciously have something to do with it. But, I grew up with him. I remember a day while he was in college and he incorrectly diagnosed my dad who could have lost an eye if he hadn't gone to the E.R. for a situation and instead listened to brother. Then, later he admitted, "Umm, well, we haven't studied that kind of situation yet."

He lives in a different city. He's not my eye doctor. When I had Lasik done 6 months ago, I never even bothered to consult him as he's not an eye surgeon and Lasik is not his specialty. Who knows how much info he has accumulated on the subject? Again, just an example of how I don't think of him as a "doctor".

 

[Liberty Belle]

She's probably just not thinking about it...that's likely the best answer you're going to get, from people who aren't her.

My brother doesn't send cards, but if he did I'm sure he'd just send them with our first names. And even if he decided to waste the ink writing out last names, I doubt if he'd bother putting my Dr on the envelope. My mom would have, but my brother? Naaaah. Though I enjoy putting Esq after my SIL's name sometimes, but usually I address to them as The Them Family, or their names and their cats' names.



I think you're actually doing it right. Something addressed to me and hubby would be, I do believe:

Dr Molly mylastname and Mr Robert hislastname

or

Molly mylastname and Robert hislastname


So I think you're doing it right.




On the other hand, Dr is a formal title that takes the place of Mr Mrs Miss Ms. So if you're going with formality, you might as well do it up right.



OMG that's hilarious.

Though maybe she thought his NAME was doctor? Kinda like the Up director, Pete Docter? (and I think in a Pixar special feature they mentioned that both his parents are actually doctors of some sort, which is too funny)



I do agree with that! My brother requires a 2 day drive or a flight to get to, but I could show up at his house 5 minutes from now, and aside from being REALLY surprised at my appearance there, I'd be 100% welcome. Especially since they keep the guest rooms closed up to remain as cat free as possible (they used to need notice to vacuum and clean and wash everything).






That would likely be my brother's reaction if I ever told him to call me Dr Molly.







Oh thank you for figuring that out...the correct meaning was there, but I missed it entirely, and I was thinking "it's Dr and Dr!" Thank you.

Interesting. Do you have a doctorate or are you a medical doctor?

 

[momrek06]

Mister Randle Patrick McMurphy.

That was an amazing movie!!!!!!!

 

[Cindy F]

Greeting card etiquette-toward the bottom of the article.

 

[abby5]

Come on Dawn --you must be bored (maybe it's rainy) you wanted specific reactions to your post and you got them. Don't ACT offended!!

 

[DawnCt1]

Come on Dawn --you must be bored (maybe it's rainy) you wanted specific reactions to your post and you got them. Don't ACT offended!!

Well abby5, who are you, or rather, who did you used to be?

 

[momrek06]

LL Bean canvas"healthy bag"

OT

Dawn, how do you like Bean's "healthy bag"?

 

[DisneyWalker44]

Which is exactly what I would say if my SIL ever asked!

Well then - especially since you say you don't care about titles - it sounds like "what this means" is that your SIL knows you and your DH well and addressed the card appropriately for you.

 

[RN4Babies]

Wait -- is this sister (OB/GYN) married to the BIL (dentist) or are they 2 different families? Wouldn't it be "Dr. sister & Dr. BIL"? It wouldn't be Mr. & Dr. or Mrs. & Dr.?

Nope, not married to each other. The OB/GYN sister's husband is an attorney, and the BIL dentist's wife is a nurse.

From now on their envelopes from me will be addressed as "Atty. John Doe JD and Dr. Jane Doe MD OB/GYN"

and "Dr. John Doe DDS and Ms. Jane Doe RN, MSN, CCRN"

I'm getting writer's cramp just thinking about it!

 

[HighClass]

It was a snide comment he made when we pulled up to the barbecue that we all were invited to. He said, "Is that your car? Who would want a Cadillac"? and rolled his eyes. .

I'm confused . Didn't you just buy a new cadillac-that was an exact duplicate of your old cadillac? Sounds as if he never saw your old one?

(Honestly-Doctor's wives around here drive Mercedes and BMW's. )

 

[Robinrs]

I'm confused . Didn't you just buy a new cadillac-that was an exact duplicate of your old cadillac? Sounds as if he never saw your old one?

(Honestly-Doctor's wives around here drive Mercedes and MBW's. )

What's a MBW?

Dawn you're pulling them out of the woodwork!

 

[Disney Doll]

Probably doesn't mean anything other than that your relatives don't think what your DH does for a living has any bearing on a social invitation.

I mean, my father was a police detective. No one ever addressed a card to him and my mother as Detective and Mrs. Disney Doll. I am a nurse. No one addresses Christmas cards to DH & I as Mr. Disney Doll and Nurse Disney Doll.

 

[Becky2005]

From now on their envelopes from me will be addressed as "Atty. John Doe JD and Dr. Jane Doe MD OB/GYN"

and "Dr. John Doe DDS and Ms. Jane Doe RN, MSN, CCRN"

I'm getting writer's cramp just thinking about it!

Just go with "The Doe family" -- that should cover it.

 

[Philagoofy]

Detective Disney Doll. I like that. It has a nice ring to it.

Friday, June 5. It was cold in Los Angeles. We were working the day watch out of robbery division. My partner's Ben Romero. The boss is Ed Backstrand, chief of detectives. My name's Detective Disney Doll.



Thanks to your dad & all of the other hard working police officers who risk their lives to keep people safe.