About to disapoint parents- wish me luck

[Princess Aurora45]

I am about to tell my parents (when they get back) that I have no intention in going back to uni as I hate it and am really unhappy, and that I am going to (hopefully) go to Norland Collage to train to be a nanny (Norland is one of the top nanny training schools in the world). I hope I dont get thrown out of the house. Anyone got any advice?

Wish me luck

 

[Disney845]

Good Luck!!

 

[Kallison]

What were you studying at uni? Is being a nanny something you want to be long term? What about when you get married and have kids? Just something to think about. My Mom always wanted me to go into teaching but I had to study Fashion Merchandising. I worked at a buyer for 2 years in NYC and hated it, now I'm a teacher's aide, really wish I had my teaching degree. Just remember my Mom saying - it would be a wonderful career when you are married and have kids, but of course I couldn't think that far in advance! Now I get paid about 1/4 what teacher's get paid and have no desire to go back to school, or the time with three kids. Just might want to think about long term goals. If this is what you want, goodluck and your parents will get over it.

 

[Disney845]

Actually.....why do you hate University? Where do you go? What are you studying? Do you "really" want to be a nanny? or do you just want to do something other than going to the University?

 

[mrsv98]

Hey, I was a trained professional nanny for 12 years and it was WONDERFUL! I had a great family and raised their kids, took trips all over the place and was really part of the family. However, they were the second family I had, the first was awful. After I left, I found that I was the 7th nanny in a year! The moral is to interview families as much as they interview you and don't be afraid to ask questions and use placement resources.

As for telling your parents, at least you have a plan and in the long run will save them money as the training program is shorter than four years at uni followed by grad school! I know, I did my MPhil at Cambridge and I am still paying for it!

Good Luck!

 

[Dan Murphy]

You do have to follow your dreams and your heart, Aurora.

I recall when our Vince (then 21, now 26) came home at this time of the year, Christmas break, in his junior year of college ('98) and studying for a business major and telling us he did not want to go back in January, as he wanted to be a firefighter. We were and asked him where this came from. He said he wanted to care for people. We knew it best, that if that is what HE wanted, and as long as he pursued it, it was fine with us. He did pursue it, very diligently, and today is both a full firefighter and paramedic, working full time with one department and part time with another. We supported him as long as he made the effort. And believe me, he is happy, so, we are too.

Best wishes, Aurora.

Dan

 

[Princess Aurora45]

I am at southampton, doing applied social science which is really crap. I am really unhappy there for a number of reasons, it isn't a nice place, I live in a really arwful halls (we dont even have showers and am paying £80 a week fo it), I dont like the course, there a lot of reasons why I want to leave, if it was only me not liking the course then I wouldn't mind it so much, put altogther it is horrid.

I have wanted to be a nanny for a long time, and yes it would be long term. If I get married and have kids then I would leave, but I would join the open university which means I can get a degree with out having to go to uni and I do it in my own time. I also have a limited number of things open to me because I am sirverly dyslexic.

Thank you for your surport

 

[phillybeth]

Originally posted by Princess Aurora45
[I also have a limited number of things open to me because I am sirverly dyslexic.[/B]

No matter what you do in life, don't use this to hold you back, or keep you from doing things that you want to. Don't use it as an excuse. Acknowledge you have a disability and get on with your life. My mother is a legal secretary and the attorney she works for has severe dyslexia, so don't let anyone tell you there are things you can't do. You are NOT limited in the things you can do. If you want it bad enough you can figure out a way to get it.

 

[Talking Hands]

Originally posted by Princess Aurora45
I also have a limited number of things open to me because I am sirverly dyslexic.

Nonsense. I have a severely dyslexic child who is finishing her Masters degree in viola performance and will start a doctorate in theory and composition next fall. Don't let you handicap limit you.
Btw I was told by many people I could not be a sign language interpreter because I am hard of hearing. Well guess what I do. I'm a sign language interpreter, substitute teacher working with daef children and teach ASL.

 

[DisneyObsessed]

Follow your heart. Good luck with your parents. Hopefully they will understand that you need to do what your heart tells you. I know I shocked and/or disappointed my parents a few times in my life and I'm sure my kids will disappoint me too. But you need to do what you need to do.

 

[lynetteSC]

No advice to you, but good luck! My sister just told my parent's this last year! She was so unhappy at her college and did not want to go to school. She is very happy now and has a pretty good full time job as a manager at her fav store (Limited TOO). I think she will eventually go back to school, but for now she is happy.

Good Luck! Let us know how it goes!

 

[Pembo]

Another wish of good luck to you! Just be honest and straightforward with your parents. Hopefully they will understand, if not right away then with time. Let us know how it goes!

 

[BarryHom]

You have to do what you enjoy doing. I wish you the best of luck!

 

[Princess Aurora45]

Well it was a complete waste of time, they both got really angry and used the '
we paid nearly £50000 on your education and you arent going to be a servant whi gets less than teachers do, and there is no way you are going to work as a nanny in the US' line on me
So i guess I am going back to uni, oh well I can either fail all my exams and then I wont be allowed back, or I will just leave them and do it anyway (dont really want to that but they are leaving me no choice).

 

[rae519]

Your parents love you and want the best for you but you have to live with yourself 24/7. They have their reasons as we all do, but just remember they do love you and want the best for you!

Good luck and God bless!

Rae

 

[Dan Murphy]

Aurora. Maybe when they calm down, show them what some other adults thought of your idea by showing this thread to them. I understand their initial reactions, Aurora, but hopefully they will come around.

Dan