? about teacher's comment to dd???

[Wishing on a star]

Okay, first, what I choose to do with my child after school is one issue... and it is MY business, not the teachers.
Also, as a parent, I have the right to pull my child out of school for ANY reason, as long as my child meets attendance requirements.

Secondly,
Lying to the school is a totally separate issue.

 

[charabby]

Therein is our disagreement.

It is me and my child.
Once I check my child out of school, the school has NO rights to tell me what I can and cannot do.
Just the thought that they might think they do makes me cringe.

The teacher didn't say anything about what the OP could do or not. He was mainly just commenting on the reality of the situation. From his perspective, the family was caught in a lie and he was letting them know that he realized it.

That being said, I kind of don't like what he did, b/c I think it's childish on the part of the teacher. If he has an issue with where the OP's dd was, he should contact the parent.

 

[Wishing on a star]

I agree that the teachers comments were not that big of a deal, UNLESS he makes further comments.

I feel very strongly that the teacher would be very out-of-line.
It is not his business.

What if the parent took the child to a Doctors appt???

What happened later that day is none of the schools business.

I agree with the last poster:
If the teacher does have an issue, he should bring it up privately with the parent. Anything else is not professional.

 

[pansmermaidzlagoon]

It was none of his business and the fact that he had to repeat himself numerous times just shows he was being nasty and rude. You know what is best for your child and have the final say. He could have been professional about it and taken you aside to air his concern in a reasonable manner. I would just let it go though, you aren't going to change him - and although irritating...I would write it off as "not sweating the small stuff".

 

[Mister Incredible]

sore throat and cold

Then a picture at an ice rink? I would have made the same comment, and then some!

 

[MosMom]

I hope Oksana doesn't have to bow out of Ice Wars because of a bad sore throat now.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

I don't think the Teacher was out of line at all. She came home from school sick than she should have stay at home. As it seems, you took her out of school to be first in line for the skater.

 

[WIcruizer]

OP lies to the school, teaches her daughter it's ok to lie when it helps you do something fun, it's ok to lie to your teacher, and her big concern is a comment a teacher made???

 

[Jennasis]

NORMALLY...not any of the teacher's business...BUT (And there is always a but, isn't there?), this is a private school, right? They may have some bizarre arcane attendance policy. Whatever!

Let it slide. Don't cause waves. You made a big error is judgement by taking her to meet Oksana Baiul instead of straight home to bed to rest (but who am I to tell you how to parent your kid....except that you got CAUGHT and put in the NEWSPAPER!). Don't mention it again, tell your daughter not to to talk about it.

Enjoy the autograph.

 

[froglady]

Maybe he's had experience with children who feign illness to get out of school, and that she shouldn't make a habit of it, as she'll be questioned?

 

[Bob Slydell]

NORMALLY...not any of the teacher's business...BUT (And there is always a but, isn't there?), this is a private school, right? They may have some bizarre arcane attendance policy. Whatever!

Bizarre arcane policies like not taking your child out of school early for fake illnesses?

 

[allie&mattsmom]

Allie and Matts mom,

While I support your policy...
It is NOT the teachers business or responsibility!
Just because he is her teacher does not give him any rights when it comes to me as a parent.

(The school does have the right to enforce school attendance policy... but the teacher has no personal right)

What happens after my child leaves the school grounds with me, is MY business.

You're right. When I really think about it the school has the right but not the teacher. I guess I spoke (typed ) too quickly without really thinking it through. I agree with you. It's early. No caffeine yet.

 

[golfgal]

Therein is our disagreement.

It is me and my child.
Once I check my child out of school, the school has NO rights to tell me what I can and cannot do.
Just the thought that they might think they do makes me cringe.

Actually, legally they DO have a right to know where your child is during school hours. Children are supposed to be in school and if they are not, it is the schools responsibility to "find" them. They don't have to know exactly what they are doing unless they have a very strict attendance policy and I am pretty sure that meeting a figure skater won't fall under any "excused absences". Look at this who thing from the teacher's point of view, mom says that dd is "sick", which she was, but then shows up in the newspaper the next day after hanging out at the ice rink all night. It just basically looks like mom lied to the school.

One school I taught at had parents pulling kids out of school for haircuts, tanning appointments, to go shopping, etc. They finally cracked down and had a very specific list of what was excused and what was unexcused. They had several kids that had to repeat grades because the missed too much school according to the attendance policy (this was high school). That pretty much stopped the frivolous absences.

 

[Mom2Ashli]

But wouldn't it be the teacher that alerted the school that their was an issue with a student in his classroom. So why it is not the teacher business.

If a student doesn't learn than it is the teacher business that he is not teaching not the schools.

The TEACHER is the backbone of your Child's learning experience.

 

[WIcruizer]

Bizarre arcane policies like not taking your child out of school early for fake illnesses?

Priceless.

 

[mickeymo]

we've had the "if you're too sick for school, you're to sick for _____" conversation quite often...especially after medicine kicks in and they're feeling fine but, school policies say not yet...


on a lighter side, this topic is reminding me of "Ferris Beuhler..."

 

[Jennasis]

Arcane like you get three lashes for each unexcused lateness...or writing with your left hand!

 

[grlpwrd]

dd 11 left school on Monday with a sore throat and cold. she is a figure skater and at our rink Oksana Baiul was coming to promote the ice wars show, I went ahead and took her to the rink, she was the first in line for autograph and pic. a reporter from the paper saw she was the first in line and interviewed us........next day article in paper........yup....all about dd11 , etc. yesterday her school raked leaves in the neighborhood(it's a private Christian school) a teacher made a few comments to her while i was standing there.....oh you left school but meet Oksana......he said it a couple times I thought his comments were outa line if he had something to say he should have said something to me in private when other classmates weren't around. what do you think?????? should I talk to the principal? or wait and see how he treats her in his class? thanks for advice.

Semantics aside and even if he was out of line, she was majorly busted.

The teacher made those comments in your presence? Why didn't you respond then and there?

Talk to the principal? They may think you lied so that is not the most conducive angle to go on.

GL!

 

[we3disneygo]

thanks for all the comments-dd did not stand outside, it was indoors,and she didn't leave school and go directly to the ice rink to "hang out all night" it was adverstised by one small flyer on the rink door, if she comes home not feeling well she doesn't go do other activities at night.....this was a once and a lifetime thing for her. so I took her and yes i guess we got busted. I didn't lie to the school.she came home neublized and took a nap and felt better.I just thought for the teacher to say over and over to her in front of other students was not the thing to do. I am going to over look the teachers comments.but watch how she is treated in his class--her math teacher thought it was neat....

 

[mickeymo]

slightly off topic - Harry Potter comes out next week -I already know of a few "sick" kids... A few parents are taking their kids to the midnight show and then blowing off school on Friday so they can sleep in...Or, last year - taking their sons out of school early on Friday to go see Star Wars.

Back to the OP, reminds me of my teacher-father's favorite saying while I was growing up - be careful what you do - you're actions reflect on me and you never know who you will run into and it will get back to me...9 times out of 10 we would run into someone who knew my dad or had him in class...