About my Mom. Long.

Virgo10

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The services for my mother are set for Wednesday morning. The funeral home that has taken care of things posted an announcement about her life (it's the 4th name down from the top, Clisham):
http://www.cartwrightfuneral.com/obituaries.php

After reading it, I started thinking about all the things that weren't in it. She was born in 1911. She was the youngest of six children. One of her older brothers was someone who liked to tinker with things. He was one of the first people to have a crystal radio receiver. Growing up with her 3 sisters and 2 brothers, she told me that for fun on a Sunday they would sit out on the front porch of their house and count the number of cars that passed by. She lived through the first World War.

In 1918, when she was 7 years old, she says her father took her to the final game of the World Series. It was the last time the Boston Red Sox won the fall classic. Her and her family were able to avoid the numerous diseases that took so many in those days like polio.

During the most of the roaring twenties she was a teenager. During the great depression she was a young woman. Sometimes with her friends and sometimes with the new love in her life, the man who eventually became my father, she would go into Boston and partake of the nightlife. They would go to Speak Easys and have a drink. Other times they would go to a burlesque show in Sculley Square. She saw Frank Sinatra in person on several occasions.

She worked for the Boston Gas Company at this time. One day her boss invited everyone one to go to the roof of the building. Around noon time the great air ship, Hindenburg, passed over the Boston skyline.

In 1938 she left work for the ride home. There was a terrible storm going on. A friend of her's was driving and was suppose to take her and another girl home. When they got to the other girl's street, they could go no further. Every tree on the street was laying across the road. The terrible storm they were in in now known as the great hurricane of 1938.

She dated my father for seven years. Jobs were few and hard to find. They married in 1940 and my brother was born in 1941. Less than 6 months later, World War II began.

In 1948 she and my father thought their family was complete. Unlike today, most women had their children when they were young and my mother was now 37. But the powers that be had different plans and I was born in September.

In the early 1950's we got our first television. In the mid 1960's we were one of the first people to get a Color TV.

She was always on the go. In her 20's and 30's she directed variety shows. In her 50's she did the make up for the big recitals in Boston. She was a waitress in many of the local restaurants.

In the late 1960's with me finally out of school, her and my father traveled. They went to Vegas, Bermuda, Europe and even to Disney World a few years after it opened in the early 70's.

My father passed on in 1981 and it was terrible blow to my mother. They were devoted to one another and had been married for 40 years. But she made new friends and always had something to do.

And that's the way she lived the rest of her life. She was always doing something right up until the end. She had flown a small plane when she was younger. She started driving when she was in her EARLY teens and continued to do so until she was 92!! She loved the Patriots and the Red Sox and especially candlepin bowling, not only to watch but to do herself. She survived two major health events, an ulcer and an aneurysm. William Taft was President when she was born.

Even after two wars, the assasination of John Kennedy and many personal tragedies, she said the worst thing she ever saw was 9/11.

From the beginnings of radio to finally using a computer in her 90's, she had seen all the modern day tools that any of us have ever seen.

She was a wife, mother, grandmother and great grandmother.

I hope you've enjoyed reading about my mother. For me it is truly the end of an era, the end of a way of life that now lives only in memory. What an interesting life it was!

Roberta
 
What a magnificent tribute to your Mother. Thank you for sharing her with us.

Jackie
 
What an interesting woman. I hope someone wrote, or writes down some of her stories. I bet future generations would benefit from it.

And again, I'm sorry.
 

That indeed was a very beautiful tribute to your mother. I did really enjoy reading it. Thanks for sharing the story of your mother. So Many parts of the story were truly amazing. What struck me was the Hindenburg passing over. How cool! Truly a legacy to how the world changed practically overnight and how one woman enjoyed life and all the changes and opportunities it had to offer.
 
I think you should mention these at her service, if you can get through it.

My mom passed away in August and I just wish I could have gone up there in front of her friends and family and said those things I just couldn't say.

It sounds like she was an amazing person who had a wonderful family, yourself included at the top of that list.
 
Originally posted by Virgo10
....the end of a way of life that now lives only in memory. What an interesting life it was!

Roberta
So true, what a wonderful life. She was blessed, you were blessed, Roberta. So well shared. And thank you. :hug:
 
Your mother saw many changes in her world, during her lifetime. I know you will miss her very much.

Katholyn
 
What a fantastic tribute.... My thoughts and prayers are with you in your loss.
 
Wow! What a fascinating woman your mother was! She lived a blessed life and she lives within you and everyone she touched. Thank you for sharing this, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers...
 
Thank you so much for sharing with us. It will always be difficult to be without those you love. I lost my father in 1992 and last year I lost my father in law. They are always with me and I try to remind my daughter about her time with my father in law and at the same time I tell her stories about the grandfather she never met. The memories of loved ones are particularly difficult for me during the holidays or special occasions.

My wedding day was particularly difficult. In 1999 my husband and I chose to get married in October because in the SF bay area we are gifted with being able to enjoy "Indian summers" We decided to hold our reception outdoors in a beautiful local Japanese garden. We had spectacular weather the entire month. We had highs of 85 inland the day before our wedding and the next morning, wouldn't you know it the rain came down in sheets. (I have a great picture of the rain pouring down on me as I rush into the church)

I was so stressed out and was in complete horror trying to figure out what we were going to do since we had planned for an outdoor reception. There was absolutely no way my entire wedding party was going to fit into the Japanese tea houses on the property. I cried all the way down the aisle because I was the first of the 4 siblings to get married. I was barely able to get down the aisle because I was crying so much, missing my father and feeling sad that I was about to leave my family and start my own. My family was very close before and after my father's death. I almost tripped walking up the stairs to the altar because I couldn't see through my tears. Miraculously we were able to make it through the ceremony and as we were exiting the church, after taking the requisite pictures, my uncle stopped me.

Then he said "Elaine I knew it would rain today," (I must have had a puzzled look on my face at this point ) and then he said
"Because I knew that your Father would find a way to touch you on this day."

I still cry when I think about what my Uncle said. It was such a wonderful sweet thought, here I was so worried/stressed out about the rain and my Uncle turned it into a beautiful gift, a gift from the heavens, a gift from God allowing my Father to touch me on my special day.

I don't think I have ever told my Uncle how much it meant to me because I have never missed my Dad's presence more then that day. I was so sad he wouldn't be walking me down the aisle or doing the father/daughter dance. My Uncle helped me realize that my Father was with me and continues to be with me today and always.

God Bless may your wonderful memories of your mother bring you comfort.

MandaMom
 
your writing shows just how much you loved and admired your mother. I think you should share what you just wrote at the viewing or funeral, it really captures the era that she lived in and who she was. Sorry for your lose.
 














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