A small vent...People who are LATE for DINNER!!!

[Disney Doll]

I have a friend who is a therapist and she says that chronic lateness is actually sometimes considered a symptom of OCD/control issues...kind of a subconscious "you aren't going to tell me what time to get there".

I know folks liek this, and they know that the designated time for an event is the designated time, and if they are late, we will start without them. Again, I'll give anyone the benefit of the doubt for 10-15 minutes, but no more than that.

 

[Poohbear123]

I have a friend who is a therapist and she says that chronic lateness is actually sometimes considered a symptom of OCD/control issues...kind of a subconscious "you aren't going to tell me what time to get there".

I know folks liek this, and they know that the designated time for an event is the designated time, and if they are late, we will start without them. Again, I'll give anyone the benefit of the doubt for 10-15 minutes, but no more than that.

Oh, I agree with that, even though my DD is 24, she HATES taking advice/set times, etc from ME! But what gets me is, I try to accomodate her, and . Also, her Friends have ALWAYS come first before ME, but I am used to that! (turned out she never went to the friends house at all).

 

[lucyanna girl]

My DF always said my sister would be late for her own funeral - I think he will probably be right!

 

[KAMLEM]

My MIL tries to have dinner at weird times like 3:00 p.m. and I hate it. 3:00 p.m. is not a meal time any way you look at it. I say give her a break and next time plan the meal for either lunch or dinner - 12 noon or between 5 and 7.

3:00 is not a weird time for a traditional "Sunday dinner" but I don't know anyone who still does Sunday dinner. We did it every Sunday when I was growing up. That shouldn't matter, anyway. When you are invited somewhere and you are told what time dinner is you show up on time, regardless of whether you agree with the time.

 

[PaulaSue]

turning it around a little...what about the family meals that are always late. They say eat at 1 (or 2) all the time and always HOURS late until served. NOT a once and a while thing either. They wonder why I bring food for the girls.

 

[Wishing on a star]

If I am the Hostess, I will definately serve dinner on time. No matter who is habitually late.

I consider it rude to have a housefull of guest standing around HUNGRY and to not serve the meal. I consider it rude to let all the wonderful fresh home-cooked foods that everyone has worked so hard to prepare, to become cold, dried-out, then re-heated leftovers.

I know that it is difficult with children. I will not let my child, or anyone elses, go hungry. If I am at someones house and dinner is not being served, I am going to start telling them that little junior is hungry. (either we eat, or I will leave to feed my family.)

I invited my sister to come over to visit a few days ago. I was thinking that it would be around supper time. But, then she called and wanted to come over early... So, I didn't plan on preparing Supper. Then she ran into some snags, and called and said that maybe she couldn't make it... I told her to call back if she could come... Then, right around suppertime she calls and says that she will be able to drive into town with a friend, so she won't be traveling alone... She arrives an hour and a half later! by which time we are starving... They don't want to go eat supper, so we visit for about an hour... then after they leave, we end up eating supper, with our little DS, at 8:30 at night!!!

This was a very busy day, the day before Christmas Eve. And my whole day was jerked around. Believe me, if it hadn't all unfolded exactly the way that it did. If I had been able to see it coming, I would NOT have been so accomodating!!! If any other guests had been involved, then my sister would have gotten NO consideration at all. DH had said that if she didn't arrive in one more minute, she was going to arrive to an empty dark house, and a note on the front door telling her (repeating her own words) "Sorry, but we we had something come up, we were hungry and went to dinner. If you could just wait around for an hour or so for us, then we can visit."