A Silly and Vain Question

[snarlingcoyote]

I have DMIL funeral tomorrow.

Which is more appropriate: Brown plaid jacket with SKIRT and tights or gray flannel suit with PANTs.

Gray suit is better color. Brown jacket has skirt.

I have to pack one to take with (Funeral is being held 2 hours away, so we're staying with friends tonight).

It's such a weird thing to dither about, I know. . .somebody give me an opinion, I'll pack it and be done with it all.

 

[teacups]

I dont know about "appropriate" but I'd go with the skirt myself. As long as it's not a shorty short skirt.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

Skirt it is.

Yeah, it's a pencil skirt, goes past my knees. . .

 

[Judy Judy Judy]

I'm sorry abot your MIL.

I would go with, Brown plaid jacket with SKIRT and tights.

 

[Aliceacc]

My sympathies on your loss.

I'm a skirt kind of girl myself.

But right now, it's 8 degrees outside. If it were me going to a funeral around here, I would choose the pants suit.

Both are appropriate. Go with whatever is easier to pack or whichever is more comfortable.

 

[harleyquinn]

I'd go with whatever I'm more comfortable in for sure. Both sound completely appropriate.

 

[Rafiki Rafiki Rafiki]

I would opt for the more conservative of the two outfits...and if they are equally conservative, go with the dressier of the two.

 

[crazyforgoofy]

If you're in a cold climate I'd go with the warmest and most comfortable. Your mother-in-law won't mind.

 

[snarlingcoyote]

Actually, I guess part of the reason I'm being so picky is that this is a little country church wayyyyyyy far back in the sticks. Years ago we attended a funeral with DMIL in this community. DMIL surveyed the assemblage and then looked at me, at DH, at DH's BF - we were all in sensible dark suits - and said "I'm so glad he married you instead of some girl from out here. You have taste and sophistication." I surveyed the girls DH had gone to high school with and understood her perfectly. (She lived all over the US in her lifetime.)

So I want the perfect suit for this funeral. It wouldn't feel right otherwise.

Thanks for the advice. That's the problem. Brown is a jacket and a skirt. Gray is a banker/lawyer style suit.

I think I'm going with brown b/c SIL (another side of the family from this - MY DB's wife) made me a gourgeous stone necklace for X-mas that works with brown outfit. I'm wearing first diamonds DH ever gave me, when we were really too poor for diamonds (he saved up!), and a teensy ruby necklace DM gave me years ago today, and the brown stone necklace that was hours of work and eyestrain by DSIL tomorrow.

Edited: if that sounds snobby, I'm terribly sorry. I don't mean for it to. It's hard to explain, she just had such a rich and varied life, I think she didn't want DH to marry someone who wouldn't try for a rich and varied life too.

 

[KathyTX]

I'm so sorry about your DMIL.

I get exactly what you're saying- you want to make her proud and honor her memory. These are details that would mean something to the two of you.

The very thoughtfulness you are putting into this is a testament to your fondness for her.