A rant, and a question

[starshine514]

Also, the Del Sol might not be as nice as the FFI, but they may appreciate the distance, they'll have a shorter walk than you at the FFI. For my parents, that's a huge deal! The Del Sol is the farthest away that they have stayed (and my mom even complained about it compared to the Desert Inn next door - lol).

 

[chrissiecutie]

Thank you all so much for your responses! I feel so much better now.

I think I'll just hold on to my reservation and see what happens. I am still hoping we can get adjoining rooms at FFI, but if we have to stay apart, that's fine too. Maybe I will talk to my MIL and SIL and make sure that is OK by them. I was able to hold my original ressie at Del Sol and can cancel with no penalty, so that is always an option, too. I WILL NOT stay in a room with four adults and a toddler, that is just too much!

I'm not too worried about being able to meet up each day, but I am worried about the jealousy factor. So maybe not inviting them back to our room is a good idea. We didn't really have hotel activities planned, other than swimming, hanging out, etc. The sad part is that my MIL is the sun worshiper who loves laying out, which is why I thought we should move to FFI in the first place, as the Del Sol's pool is practically non-existent! Oh well! More park time, right!

Thanks again all for listening. You know you can always count on your fellow DISers to understand the weirdos who don't want to plan every detail of their trip

I would still invite them back to your hotel for pool activities! Since Del Sol doesn't have a very nice pool & your hotel pool is the better of the 2, I say - go for it! IMO, the jealousy factor will occur no matter what you do. So be gracious, invite them to swim & hang poolside & try to enjoy it.

Why should everyone miss out because 1 person might feel jealous? Right?? If you, DH & DD will enjoy spending that time with MIL & SIL, then don't deny everyone the enjoyment because one person might be caught up in their current situation.

I always like to try and invision the best & worst of any situation. So what would be the best- you'll all have a great time at a nicer pool. The worst- SIL will be so overcome with jealousy that you get to stay someplace nicer (hello 5 yr old!) & won't come at all or she may make comments that you'll have to address. KWIM? But either way- you invited them & it's up to them what they do with it.

 

[Crazy4Disney06]

It really depends. I would have NO problem staying at a different hotel then my in laws (we have actually done this before) but there is no way I would book separate hotels if it were my mom. I think it really depends on the relationship and how much drama it may or may not cause by you being at a different hotel then the rest of your party. It's really just a room anyhow, the memories will be made inside the parks!

 

[taaren]

I'm not too worried about being able to meet up each day, but I am worried about the jealousy factor. So maybe not inviting them back to our room is a good idea. We didn't really have hotel activities planned, other than swimming, hanging out, etc. The sad part is that my MIL is the sun worshiper who loves laying out, which is why I thought we should move to FFI in the first place, as the Del Sol's pool is practically non-existent! Oh well! More park time, right!

Just so you're aware, though we do like the FFI for the rooms, and they're of higher quality than the Del Sol, the pool is small and pretty much in the parking lot. Not very resort-ey.

Enjoy your vacation sans-guilt. Before we were DVC, we took several trips with friends/family staying in different hotels and it worked out great, we just texted when we got to the parks, were able to find out if we wanted to visit the same attractions, etc, then met up if we did or went our own ways if we didn't or someone had woken up late. In fact, we still do this sometimes even when we have everybody in a 2 bedroom or 2 rooms in the same hallway.

 

[sasywtch]

Well, I guess I am the lone dissenter. Oh well. I just read that they were all going to celebrate MIL's 60th birthday and to me, a hotel/motel would not be that important to possibly cause any rift. I took it as they were all going together and not one showing up another day.
Curious what the husband thinks of his mother staying in a cheaper type motel when they are staying at a nicer one. My husband would have told me we were all staying at the same place. Now if one group came on another day or everyone made their own plans, different story but OP said she was the planner and in charge.

On the flip side, I've made the mistake of telling some other relatives we were going, when and where we were staying and they made the same reservations and I was kicking myself. My mother or MIL, nope.

 

[interstate70s]

OP - is the Fairfield sold out on their own site or just LMT? If the price difference isn 't to bad in the grand scheme of things maybe they could swing the FF anyway. Is your MIL or SIL eligible for any other possible discounts that might ease the price diff, like senior,AAA, or something like that? I would ask for their input and see what's important to them as well.
BTW -Good luck traveling with inlaws. You are a brave soul!

 

[KateDrake]

OP - is the Fairfield sold out on their own site or just LMT? If the price difference isn 't to bad in the grand scheme of things maybe they could swing the FF anyway. Is your MIL or SIL eligible for any other possible discounts that might ease the price diff, like senior,AAA, or something like that? I would ask for their input and see what's important to them as well.
BTW -Good luck traveling with inlaws. You are a brave soul!

That is a really good idea. We were going to book a room for me, DH, DD3 and DMIL at PP on the senior discount before DSIL knew if she could come, but I didn't think about seeing if other hotels offered one as well! I will look into that. Right now the price difference is $91 at LMT and $145 anywhere else, so it's a pretty big difference for DSIL who is on a budget. And LMT is sold out, but there appear to be rooms elsewhere, so a senior discount or something could be great!

To answer a few other posters, we are all traveling down together, like in the same car, etc. We're planning on just parking the car at the hotel and not using it all week though. So it is a VERY together trip, not arriving separate, etc. And while it can be trying to travel with in-laws, we've done it before and had a great time. We did a cruise in January, and then WDW a few years ago, and had a great time.

I am going to keep my FFI ressie and hope I can add another room. If not, we'll all be fine back at the Del Sol. It's good to have both options!

 

[tanyaewa]

Sashywtch - I am with you. For a few $ it's not worth hurting feelings and rocking the boat. In my family it would cause a lot of problems. I would find a way to stay at same hotel. For sure

 

[NorCalGal]

Count me in the "let everyone stay where they want to" camp. I hate it when someone tries to make me stay at the hotel they want just so everyone is at the same hotel. Don't get what difference it makes. We just pick a time to meet at the closest hotel, and decide in advance if we'll have eaten breakfast or not. Since we normally try to either breakfast on our own food in the room or stay some place with at least a free continental, it works out really well. As someone else stated, with cell phones it couldn't be easier.

As far as your DMIL and DSIL, they made their choice when they didn't take your advice, so my guess is they're fine with the original decision you made. If, once you check in the rooms, there is a dramatic difference, you could trade if you want, or have your DMIL stay with you, but I'd say that depends on your family dynamics.

 

[DisneyMommy403]

Count me in the "let everyone stay where they want to" camp. I hate it when someone tries to make me stay at the hotel they want just so everyone is at the same hotel. Don't get what difference it makes. We just pick a time to meet at the closest hotel, and decide in advance if we'll have eaten breakfast or not. Since we normally try to either breakfast on our own food in the room or stay some place with at least a free continental, it works out really well. As someone else stated, with cell phones it couldn't be easier.

As far as your DMIL and DSIL, they made their choice when they didn't take your advice, so my guess is they're fine with the original decision you made. If, once you check in the rooms, there is a dramatic difference, you could trade if you want, or have your DMIL stay with you, but I'd say that depends on your family dynamics.

Excellent point!

 

[Jazzheffa]

Count me in the "let everyone stay where they want to" camp. I hate it when someone tries to make me stay at the hotel they want just so everyone is at the same hotel. Don't get what difference it makes. We just pick a time to meet at the closest hotel, and decide in advance if we'll have eaten breakfast or not. Since we normally try to either breakfast on our own food in the room or stay some place with at least a free continental, it works out really well. As someone else stated, with cell phones it couldn't be easier.

As far as your DMIL and DSIL, they made their choice when they didn't take your advice, so my guess is they're fine with the original decision you made. If, once you check in the rooms, there is a dramatic difference, you could trade if you want, or have your DMIL stay with you, but I'd say that depends on your family dynamics.

I think it's a blessing! Unless someone was a designated babysitter. Lol

I wish I had that Disney feeling at work.