Yesterday, ds16 was given a copy of his transcripts. He is doing well, 21 in his class of 300, no behavior problems etc. He did have issues in middle school..the forgetful and what I felt were 'lazy' homework habits. He definitely was one of those kids where the teacher would comment how his grades would look turning in homework. He could ace a test but turning in homework was beneath him no matter how many times he was grounded.
Anyway, the question. I noticed on the transcripts (which go all the way back to elem school) that they have him listed as possibly autistic. He was considered special needs in first and second. He is a severe asthmatic and those first two years of school he seemed to go back and forth in and out of the hospital. While the drs and I tried to figure out what medications and triggers he had, he missed quite a few days of school. In first grade they approached me because he did not seem to be understanding math nor was he reading at all and his speech was far behind. Socially he was o.k. He did cry, horribly, everyday when he went to school until the end of 2nd grade. He did not like to be away from home. I had thought at the time that he was probably behind from being sick and being out. At the end of 2nd he was reading on a 3rd grade level, his speech was/is perfect and his math comprehension is wonderful..even today.
I wonder should I speak to the school and ask them to remove this or should I just let it be. Whe ds saw it, he brought it to my attention because he *never* knew he was considered special education classified. He made such steady progress those years, I never mentioned anything except when he had a memory of a special class or special friend. I also wonder why no one at the school ever even mentioned in the 300 meetings it felt like we had that they felt this way? I am reasonably certain that he is not autistic but I am not a dr and know that there is a wide range of spectrums. It listed on there that because he had little speech and verbal connections with people. He did really at home, but he was also painfully shy. Mostly I feel because I did cocoon him a lot since he was sick and I was always making sure he never went anywhere with cats, dogs, illness etc. He was so ill the drs recommended he stay out the first 3 weeks of kindegarten as most got (at that time) the live polio virus and he was on an extended oral steroid at that time (6 months).
Thoughts? Does it even really matter except to ds?
Kelly
ETA: I never really spoke much about this to ds, not because I didn't want him to know but because he quickly became an illness 'manipulator' in 2nd grade. Once his meds and triggers were under control, I noticed he was using his asthma to get his way. I spoke with his ped who said it was common and the best I could do as his parent is NOT to let it happen. So, a lot of times if there was an issue, I just 'pretended' it was normal or o.k...otherwise he would never try anything, do anything etc.
Anyway, the question. I noticed on the transcripts (which go all the way back to elem school) that they have him listed as possibly autistic. He was considered special needs in first and second. He is a severe asthmatic and those first two years of school he seemed to go back and forth in and out of the hospital. While the drs and I tried to figure out what medications and triggers he had, he missed quite a few days of school. In first grade they approached me because he did not seem to be understanding math nor was he reading at all and his speech was far behind. Socially he was o.k. He did cry, horribly, everyday when he went to school until the end of 2nd grade. He did not like to be away from home. I had thought at the time that he was probably behind from being sick and being out. At the end of 2nd he was reading on a 3rd grade level, his speech was/is perfect and his math comprehension is wonderful..even today.
I wonder should I speak to the school and ask them to remove this or should I just let it be. Whe ds saw it, he brought it to my attention because he *never* knew he was considered special education classified. He made such steady progress those years, I never mentioned anything except when he had a memory of a special class or special friend. I also wonder why no one at the school ever even mentioned in the 300 meetings it felt like we had that they felt this way? I am reasonably certain that he is not autistic but I am not a dr and know that there is a wide range of spectrums. It listed on there that because he had little speech and verbal connections with people. He did really at home, but he was also painfully shy. Mostly I feel because I did cocoon him a lot since he was sick and I was always making sure he never went anywhere with cats, dogs, illness etc. He was so ill the drs recommended he stay out the first 3 weeks of kindegarten as most got (at that time) the live polio virus and he was on an extended oral steroid at that time (6 months).
Thoughts? Does it even really matter except to ds?
Kelly
ETA: I never really spoke much about this to ds, not because I didn't want him to know but because he quickly became an illness 'manipulator' in 2nd grade. Once his meds and triggers were under control, I noticed he was using his asthma to get his way. I spoke with his ped who said it was common and the best I could do as his parent is NOT to let it happen. So, a lot of times if there was an issue, I just 'pretended' it was normal or o.k...otherwise he would never try anything, do anything etc.
... mine would have been the same way!!!
We do what we think is best at the time. Hindsight is always 20/20! Going through medical issues with kids is so tough and to go through a divorce at the same time could not have been easy... at least everything worked out great!!! 

