A Question... Am I over-reacting here?

[Wishing on a star]

I know we would love an update.

But, maybe we should give the OP a little space.

 

[scottishduffy]

I did not previously update just because it has been a hard situation for me and I suppose I was not quite ready to talk about it. I have been trying to keep things out of my thoughts I suppose.

I did make the call. The person took a report. I got the impression that leaving the baby home alone was something that needed to be caught in the act. I told about my concerns regarding supervision of nephew and a report was taken. We shall see what comes of this. I did an anonymous report so I won't get a report from DCFS. I am merely waiting for my Brother to call home in a tizzy talking about a social worker dropping by. Though my bro rarely shares the events of his life with us..... we didn't know about SIL until they were engaged (apparently had been dating over a year, he just kept it from us).

My mother has her trip planned for about 6 weeks from now. I did not tell her what I did. Though I know it is and was the right thing to do, surely everyone can understand I have a great deal of inner turmoil over this. I feel it was right but still feel bad.

I feel Bad for my nephew, who may be neglected. I feel bad for my brother for what he is about to go through, and what I (as well as his own choices) will put him through. I am angry at my brother for being an utter moron. I hope he gets a huge wake up call, but am afraid of any possible fallout from this.

The home itself (been there quite a few times) is clean, and utterly baby proofed with large play area for nephew, though minimalist on toys due to their parenting philosophy... if that is what i must call it. I don't think that the *inside* of their home will cause concern. Hopefully the social worker will dig deeper into the big picture here and make some reccomendations to them. We shall see........

 

[kirbydog48]

You've done the right thing. I can't imagine how hard it is or how conflicted you must feel. You're doing this for you nephew.

 

[happygirl]

Please don't feel bad, You saved this child life

 

[merrily]

You did the right thing, but honestly it is highly unlikely that anything will come of this. A social worker may visit the home where they will see nothing amiss and that will be the end of it.

 

[mum24grlz]

I'm glad you made the report. I know it must've been extremely difficult for you but I truly hope this makes your brother and sil wake up and realize their parenting style is not a safe one

 

[TomLovesBecky]

You did the right thing, but honestly it is highly unlikely that anything will come of this. A social worker may visit the home where they will see nothing amiss and that will be the end of it.

I totally agree. The only thing is that they might say there was a report of leaving him home alone and they must not do it again, and MAYBE they will listen if they are told by the authorities. Other than that, if it happens again that you know he is home alone, call the police immediately and meet them at the door! Good luck and sorry you had to take such a step but you know it was necessary and you are doing what you can to protect your nephew, God bless you!

 

[N&B'smom]

I'm very proud of you, OP. As my signature says...we must all make the choice between what is right and what is easy. You made the RIGHT choice certainly not the easy one.

 

[disney_mommy]

I did not previously update just because it has been a hard situation for me and I suppose I was not quite ready to talk about it. I have been trying to keep things out of my thoughts I suppose.

I did make the call. The person took a report. I got the impression that leaving the baby home alone was something that needed to be caught in the act. I told about my concerns regarding supervision of nephew and a report was taken. We shall see what comes of this. I did an anonymous report so I won't get a report from DCFS. I am merely waiting for my Brother to call home in a tizzy talking about a social worker dropping by. Though my bro rarely shares the events of his life with us..... we didn't know about SIL until they were engaged (apparently had been dating over a year, he just kept it from us).

My mother has her trip planned for about 6 weeks from now. I did not tell her what I did. Though I know it is and was the right thing to do, surely everyone can understand I have a great deal of inner turmoil over this. I feel it was right but still feel bad.

I feel Bad for my nephew, who may be neglected. I feel bad for my brother for what he is about to go through, and what I (as well as his own choices) will put him through. I am angry at my brother for being an utter moron. I hope he gets a huge wake up call, but am afraid of any possible fallout from this.

The home itself (been there quite a few times) is clean, and utterly baby proofed with large play area for nephew, though minimalist on toys due to their parenting philosophy... if that is what i must call it. I don't think that the *inside* of their home will cause concern. Hopefully the social worker will dig deeper into the big picture here and make some reccomendations to them. We shall see........

What an awful situation to be in - both you and your nephew. I agree with everyone that you made the right choice. Don't worry about any backlash you may receive - if that little one knew the situation, he would thank you. You have spoken for someone that can't speak for himself.

 

[MoniqueU]

I know that must of been hard to do, I am hoping a visit paid to them will wake them up and that there are no repercussions for you. Hopefully things get better and they come to their senses. Either way if you so much as get an inkling anything else is wrong call again right away.

 

[robinb]

You did the right thing.

 

[Liberty Belle]

You did the right thing, but honestly it is highly unlikely that anything will come of this. A social worker may visit the home where they will see nothing amiss and that will be the end of it.

That may be so, but it is a start and if things don't improve and another call is made, it will have more merit.

OP, . I can only imagine.