A new relationship?

[Disneylover79]

I am posting this on behalf of my brother....he has been dating his girlfriend for about a month. SO for V-Day what should he get her?

He is getting her some Norman Love Chocolate. I suggested maybe some flowers (not roses) going to dinner/movie.....

So for a NEW relationship what is good for V-Day?

 

[GoldieSaysMeep]

Why not roses? My now DH gave me a single red rose on our first date and I still have it (dried & preserved).

For a new relationship, flowers (of any sort) & candy seems pretty good to me. She'll think it's sweet.

 

[busyshrew]

I have to agree with the PP - why on earth not roses?
Now, for a relationship that is only 4 weeks along, I don't think your brother should be going out and buying 6 dozen longstems (that amount of money would probably scare the beejeebers out of the girl), but roses in and of themselves are very appropriate for Valentine's Day, I think.

My opinion is, flowers and candy/chocolate would be wonderful. A book could be very nice too, if she's the type of girl who loves books.

 

[disneyfreakk]

I think if they are far enough into their relationship and having "relations", then they are close enough for him to get her roses!

 

[shortbun]

Not roses because they are awful, tattered and too expensive at Valentines Day. I love tulips, fragrant carnations, an orchid at Valentines Day. Roses just mean nothing or can be interpreted as meaning too much in a relationship of one month. a small bouquet and dinner would be enough as long as he plans in advance and lets her know she has plans with him.

 

[redrosesix]

I am definitely missing something on the roses - I can't imagine why not :

Flower and candy, and out for dinner and/or a movie sounds great for a new relationship.

 

[Judy Judy Judy]

I think if they are far enough into their relationship and having "relations", then they are close enough for him to get her roses!

Yes I agree with this, it depends on the type of relationship. If they are just strictly dating I say a mix flower arrangement or small set of roses are good plus a meal and movie. If they are more than that I think he should roll out the red carpet and do it up as big as he can.

 

[mrspaha]

How old is your brother and his new girl?

 

[Kellydelly]

He could get her an adorable, cuddly teddy bear and some chocolates. I'm old (pushing 40) and I would still like that .

 

[LuvOrlando]

I guess I'm just different because I'm with the OP on this and think that Roses on Valentines Day for a new dating situation is a little too needy for me. A date, sure, maybe even some candy or tabletop tulips but Valentine's Day is for love and if you're not in love yet there is a definite possibility of stirring up the EWW factor. Too available too soon has never been inviting to me.

 

[SOnotLayuh]

Count me in on the "roses are ok" camp.

 

[Disney Doll]

Chocolates would be good. If he thinks roses are "too much" then how about a nice mixed arrangement with a lot of reds and pinks in it?

 

[PixieDustandEeyore]

What about an edible arrangement. I'm in awe of them ha ha.

 

[Swalphin]

I am a no roses kind of person, hate to say this but maybe not chocolates either.

Does he have a place that sells yummy cupcakes or small tarts , something they could share , I'd suggest a bottle of champagne if they drink, if not maybe some really nice coffee or coco.

I like the idea of a nice book maybe of a place she mentioned she would like to visit.

If he gets flowers, and there is nothing wrong with that, maybe tulips something different than roses.

 

[castmemberb4]

I agree with No Roses they are just so old fashion and tired, not to mention WAY over priced. DH tries to get me daffodils as they are my favorite, if he dosen't know her favorite flower one of the best 'other' flowers I've gotten from DH was a potted Orchid. It was $25 (still had the sticker on the pot) way cheaper than roses and had blooms on it until MAY !!

I think for a new relationship chocolate and flowers are pefect, not too over done, but I do think roses say "I didn't put any thought into this"

 

[Disneylover79]

Not roses because they are awful, tattered and too expensive at Valentines Day. I love tulips, fragrant carnations, an orchid at Valentines Day. Roses just mean nothing or can be interpreted as meaning too much in a relationship of one month. a small bouquet and dinner would be enough as long as he plans in advance and lets her know she has plans with him.

This is what I was thinking!

 

[Disneylover79]

How old is your brother and his new girl?

They are in their late 20's

 

[Disneylover79]

Chocolates would be good. If he thinks roses are "too much" then how about a nice mixed arrangement with a lot of reds and pinks in it?

This is what I as thinking when I said flowers..daisies,tulips,carnations etc...

 

[Hannathy]

Not roses because they are awful, tattered and too expensive at Valentines Day. I love tulips, fragrant carnations, an orchid at Valentines Day. Roses just mean nothing or can be interpreted as meaning too much in a relationship of one month. a small bouquet and dinner would be enough as long as he plans in advance and lets her know she has plans with him.

I agree. If it is a new relationship roses and candy and a dinner could scare off someone. That would be coming on really heavy for your brother. That is as much if not more than most men do in established relationships.

If they are going out that evening then I think a smallish mixed bouquet,more fun than romance, is enough or if he wants to add something small like a few chocolate covered strawberries it would more than get the message across.


Forgot to add he doesn't want to use up all his tricks this year! better save the roses for next year.

 

[Swalphin]

I agree that you don't want to scare her off. But, what if this girl is the one! You do not want to be afraid to give her something special in fear of scaring her off. What if she bails becuase he didn't seem that into her on Vday.

I'm sure he'll do fine.