A few updates from me... LONG post.

[preshi]

Update 1 - My Aunt - Apparently by some miracle she is doing much better. I don't understand it but a few days after they told us her lungs were collapsing they said she was doing better and they sent her back to the home. She is resting as comfortably as she can.

Update 2 - Dh and I - A few of you know that we had "seperated" We were still living together but I took off my rings and he was gone for almost a week and things were very hostile. Last night we went to dinner before our counseling session. I got alot of things off my chest that I needed to say but was afraid to. This lead to good conversation, for once, at counseling. I really felt calm and raw emotion that I haven't let myself feel in a long time. Things were dicussed and I honestly think we are going to be ok.

I am a bit worried about my best friend. She says she's supportive but I can see through it. She has her own agenda she keeps trying to push on me and it has worked quite a few times. I need to show her how strong I can be today... she's not going to like that Patrick and I are staying together but too bad. If she can't be supportive then she wasn't meant to be a real friend.

On an ickier note I am getting 3 wisdom teeth pulled out on Friday and right now I have a cold... I don't know if they will do the surgery if I do have this cold so send some healing thoughts my way if you can. I want these babies out.

Also it's our 4 year anniversary in 13 days. I am glad we've made it to see it. I've put that man through alot... I can't imagine why he has stuck around.

 

[JerseyJanice]

Glad to hear things are going well with you.

 

[browneyes]

Originally posted by preshi
I've put that man through alot... I can't imagine why he has stuck around.

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[Pixie Power!]

{{{hugs{}}} to you Meagan, im glad things are working out well for you.

Emma

 

[Blondie]

Hang in there!

 

[dizneenut]

Glad to hear things are looking up!

 

[Robinrs]

Wow, Meagan...

First of all, I'm so glad to hear your aunt is hanging in there. My aunt survived cancer for 13 years. It is not always an immediate sentence of doom.

Hang in there, honey. My Mom once told me that if she gave up on her husband in the first few years, they would've never had the wonderful life they had for 60 plus years. And she really wanted to! It takes work, it takes devotion, and it takes commitment, from BOTH of you. I'm glad to see you two are being proactive.

As for your friend, she's just trying to be supportive. Friends only see what you've told them, and they don't possess that LOVE that you share, they only see how the hurt affect YOU. And she loves you, and it's her nature to want to protect you. Don't blame her for caring. I've been in her position many times.

God bless...

--Robinrs

 

[preshi]

Thank you Robin Thank you everyone.

i just told her and obviously I didnt give her enough credit. She was genuinely happy for me...

 

[Buckalew]

Preshi,
Good news about your aunt!

I just wanted to say that my marriage was rocky for the first 3 years--at 4 years there was this turn around time that has taken us to 15yrs. People will say the first year is the hardest and I always thing, no, the first 3!! But, like I said before, at 4 yrs. that is where I truly made the committ for the marriage to work. I was going to stop thinking of leaving (I'd divide things up in my head even! ) We were both trying to make it work and did. I am hoping the same for you all.
He stays because he loves you, I'm sure.
As for your friend, maybe it is like RobinRS said. However, the thought went thru my mind that maybe if she isn't as supportive as you like, that maybe she doesn't WANT your marriage to work & then she'd have her friend back to go out with all the time--no committments on your part so to speak. I hope I'm off base there but remember to surround yourself with positive support. Look for the good in your DH and your marriage. Stay away from the negative as much as possible. {{{hugs}}}

 

[Buckalew]

Good! Sounds like I was off base!
Best of luck!!

 

[preshi]

Originally posted by Buckalew
However, the thought went thru my mind that maybe if she isn't as supportive as you like, that maybe she doesn't WANT your marriage to work & then she'd have her friend back to go out with all the time--no committments on your part so to speak.

Brenda... that is EXACTLY what I was thinking. Shes been having a rough time too with all things in her life. She is being supportive today though so all I can do is give her the benefit of the doubt. Yesterday I couldn't have said the same thing though.

Everything will work out the way it is supposed to.

Again I thank all of you for your continued support. it means more than you all can know.

 

[tc]

It is so good to hear that you are working to hard to keep your marriage together. I work for a divorce attorney, and I see so many people bail at the first sign of trouble. Prayers and pd sent to you.

I am also glad your aunt is doing better. I was wondering the other day how she is doing.

As for your friend, if she's a real friend, she will support you in this, no matter how she feels.

I am so glad things are looking up. I had all four of my wisdom teeth pulled, however, they would not do it when I had a cold. The oral surgeon said the infection could get into the open wounds. I was put on strong antibiotics and rescheduled the surgery. Two weeks later I was healthy and they took them out. The recovery was not bad either. Hope all goes well.

 

[helenabear]

I am glad to hear that things seem to be looking up for you now! Hopefully your friend truly is just as Robin said, looking out for your best interests based on what you have said to her and that was all you saw in her yesterday. Glad to also hear about your aunt. I hope things keep looking up for you

 

[Dan Murphy]

So very happy to hear things are going well for your aunt, Meg. Wonderful news!!!!

And glad to hear you and Patrick are investing in your marriage, through time and commitment, and both it takes. It is worth the effort.

Looking forward to having a welcome to Chicago Preshi meet some time next year.

 

[bfeller]

Sounds as though life is coming along in a positive way. Hope those pesky wisdom teeth get out.

 

[JasonLyons]

im glad things are looking better, but thats still no excuse for a long post

 

[Serena]

{{{hugs}}} Meagan. I'm really happy for you. I'm happy about your aunt too.