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[Pembo]

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[smallblock72]

A good swift backhand should do the trick!

 

[RadioFanatic]

how about subtracting tv time for each lie he tells (like a 1/2 hour or something) or a time out (10 minutes) for each lie he tells

 

[Quackmore]

A good swift backhand should do the trick!

That not very Disney of you.

 

[Bob NC]

Make a list of the 5 or 6 things he likes to do most.

Soccer
Playstation
Playing with the kid next door
TV
Riding bike

Tell him the first time he lies, one thing is being crossed off the list and he can't do that for 2 weeks. There will be no discussions/debates about it. Don't even raise your voice when you do it. Just cross it off the list, go to the calendar and say, you can play playstation again on Dec 6th.

If you do it....It WILL work.

 

[Marseeya]

I just nailed my 10 yo DD for lying to me! She's so embarrassed now.

She forgot to take her social studies homework to class with her (it's in her desk). I get a strongly worded letter from teacher. I send a letter back, telling her to get DD to get homework out of her desk. This is where it gets funny.

Yesterday I asked DD if she gave the letter to her teacher. "Yes," she says, "but she gave it back to me." The letter was still stapled shut. DD says, "Teacher doesn't accept letters from home." Busted.

Today, she was smart enough to unstaple the letter, but says, "Teacher sent it back without replying."

Mmm hmmmmm.

I called teacher and told her the whole story right in front of DD. DD is mortified. She's not only in trouble at home, but at school as well.

 

[agnes!]

What are the things that he really likes? Whatever it is, the Gameboy or a game system or TV time or going skateboarding....crack down *now*. Revoke the privilege, having sat down beforehand and telling him that this lying is not acceptable and that there will be consequences. Make sure that Dad is on board with all this as well.
And then when he lies again, the skateboard(or game system or whatever) goes *away*, in some fashion. The "taking away TV time" for every fib is a great idea. Maybe give him a certain amount of TV time at the beginning of the week. Then for every lie, "Sorry, that's 30 minutes less!" Stick to it and he'll get the message. If you think it's appropriate, he could perhaps earn his privilege back by doing extra chores, like cleaning the tub or toilet .
Or if the whopper is a really big one, where someone could have gotten hurt or he lies about where he's going after school, etc....You could even decide to give it away for keeps.
You have to (metaphorically) hit him where he thinks. Whatever that special something is, take it away. Does he have a TV in his room? It is gone. Is he planning on going out with some friends? Sorry, he can't go, he's on "restriction".
An occasional fib is not a problem to me, but I would have a problem if my DD, for instance, started lying about every. single. thing. How would I be able to trust her with responsibilities if she lied all the time?

Good luck. Parenting is the hardest job in the world.
agnes!

 

[WIcruizer]

When my DS started doing this, we sat down and I looked him right in the eyes. I told him in a firm, calm voice.. "No matter what you do, it isn't nearly as bad as lying about it. There is nothing that will get me or your mother more upset than lying. You will NOT do that anymore right?"

That was more than enough for my DS. He got the message loud and clear. I realize it may not be that easy for everyone.

 

[LuvTigger]

I'm not a parent, but one of my friends told me what she did to punish her daughter once, and I thought it was great. It's kind of along the lines of those who suggested taking away something the child enjoys most. For my friends' daughter, it was clothes. She loved to wear nice clothes to school. So the punishment? For one whole week, she could only wear black pants and a white shirt. To her daughter, it was cruel and unusual punishment!