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[christineann]

I have the same problem with one of my siblings. He only comes around when he wants or needs something from us.

Our prayers and thoughts are with you. Hope your surgery goes well.

 

[huey duey & luey]

Im sorry you even have to deal with the bs now. Please dont let them upset you. prayers for a successful surgery
tara

 

[Tinkerbelle739]

Pembo, sorry to hear you have to deal with this. Good luck with the surgery and we will all be waiting for you to post when you are feeling up to it.

I think you are right that your brother and SIL just dont know how to handle it. Its a shame to have to ask for help from family, it should have just been offered.

Try not to dwell on it. You have enough on your plate and you have the picnic details worked out.

Sending you all the Pixie Dust that can fly through the air to you!! ~**~*~***~~~*******~*~*~*~****~*~***~**~*****~*~*****~***~****~

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Hey, it sounds as if ds is going with the RIGHT people. People who care. My gut says he is going to have a better memory of the picnic.
Best wishes that things go smoothly.

 

[arminnie]

I don't even know you much less am I related to you but if I were ANYWHERE nearby I would come and help you. They are just not nice people, but I can tell that you are.

Just wanted to let you know that I've know a couple of people who have had major head surgery and are just fine. It's not a picnic but it's not that horrible either. I really hope that all turns out well for you.

Lots of prayers. tricia

 

[ByTheSea]

Good luck with your surgery....

I had an incredibly thoughtless selfish sibling and feel your pain... I say "had" as in life is better since we refer to him only when unavoidable, and only as "the ____ fka my brother."

But keep in mind, at least he did ask your Mother about you and did show up, which shows that in his own way, he must care....

 

[ripleysmom]

Good Luck with your surgery Pembo.

 

[candykisses]

I'm so sorry you have to deal with an illness and such egocentric family members. No one can hurt and disappoint you like family. I've been through it with DHs family.

Sending my prayers for a speedy recovery and strength for you and your family.

 

[buzzlady]

Best wishes for your surgery. What goes around comes around and they will have their day. Take care of yourself.

 

[tigercat]

Wishing you well with your surgery. I wish I was near you to help you.
tigercat

 

[Pop Daddy]

[If you're still reading........you are a better person than my brother and his wife. At least you care, a little...........

[/B][/QUOTE]

I ddint really read the whole thing but Im on your side

 

[RNMOM]

Pembo,

Much pixie dust, good thoughts and prayers to you. Please call me if you need ANYTHING or need to talk. I am not far away and can be there in a flash....

Cordia

I will IM you my numbers.

 

[Alicnwondrln]

Well let me start out by saying good luck with your operation and god bless you and your family.
Secondly that stinks I could use harsher language but wont. Hopefully after you come out of this and feel better you can sit down with your brother. My sister is the same way. Its always sad when the people you need the most arent there for you. Sorry.

 

[mikesmom88]

Best wishes and pixie dust to you and your family. My prayers are with you and I hope all goes well.

Almost everyone has one family member like that, self-centered, self-absorbed, only calls when they need something. Don't worry, you are a better person than that! Good luck.

 

[Hillbeans]

Pembo,

I'm just wishing you all the best with your surgery.

I have issues as of recent with my Brother and SIL and it's not fun when you feel taken advantage of. You're a "do'er" also, not a taker. Unfortunately alot of us "do'er" types latch on to "taker" types and after awhile, we feel completely used and abused.

You shouldn't have to ask Family to help out, but sometimes it's easier to rely on friends because they're more willing to help out without any strings attached.

Best of luck to you. Let us know how you're doing.

 

[4cruisin]

Pembo,

Just focus on yourself for now. You need all the energy to get well after your surgery. Know that everyone here is praying for you and keeping good thoughts for you. Sometimes friends are much better than "family".

Once you recuperate, you can decide if you really want your b & sil to be part of your life. Sometimes, it's just not worth the aggravation. I finally realized that my 3 b's and their wives caused me more hurt and pain than I was willing to take. They are now out of my life for good. Sounds sad, but it is for the best and my life is much more stress-free.

Prayers are coming your way.

Nancy

 

[holycow]

You're the better person most definately.I would have slapped them! ..((((((((((HUGS))))))))))
to you and your Dfamily...good luck.


Lisa

 

[Pete's Mom]

Good luck!

 

[Dan Murphy]

I hear ya, Barb. Family, friends, not necessarily the same. You do have many friends, caring frineds, here, and a good number close by. Take up on those offers, they will be helpful in days ahead. Wish I was closeby, physically, not just in spirit. A LOT of your friends are pulling for you, Pem, will be with you tomorrow.

Dan 's

 

[C.Ann]

I don't think I will ever understand how people can have NO compassion for others when times are hard.. I have had SERIOUS issues with certain people, but when the chips were down and they needed help, I was right there in the blink of an eye.. For most "normal" people, when something REALLY serious is going on it makes them realize how "petty" the other stuff is..

My DD's IL's have to be among the most uncompassionate people I have ever met.. If it does not affect them - their immediate family (minus my DD), their granddaughter or their son, they have NO compassion whatsoever..

FIL will even go so far as to totally dismantle and break items that he is setting out at the curb for trash pick-up or recycling because "if he isn't going to use it anymore, no one else is going to use it either.." What's up with THAT????????

I'm sorry you're being treated this way and believe me, if I lived by you I would take your son to the picnic in a heartbeat and help you out in any other way that I possibly could..

Still praying for you.. It's going to be okay!!!

Hugs,
C.Ann