Just putting this here for later..
Sadly, it's not a question of setting up the next step in my FIL's care. My inlaws depend entirely on their Social Security and have zero savings and no long term care insurance. But they do own their trailer and the land it's on, and when we all tried to convince my BIL a few years ago to sell the home and set them up in an apartment at least, he would not have the battle with them. They are the textbook example of no planning and no solutions. I feel bad for my BIL, but he insisted on handling everything with no input, and his plan was to assume that one of my inlaws would die, break a hip or injure themselves and they could go in a Medicaid nursing home. At this point, everyone knows my inlaws should not be living on their own and should at a minimum have some sort of in home care, but there is no money at all, and the ideal solution would be to have them move in with a family member. But the only one close is my BIL and his wife has stated in no uncertain terms that is not an option. Which I don't blame her one bit. This situation has been a real eye-opener about what really happens with the super-elderly, that is the term their doctor's use because of their ages, when they have no resources and have something like Alzheimer's. You are so right, it is heartbreaking and difficult to watch. I adore them, especially him because I lost my dad young, and my FIL is like my own dad.
Sadly, it's not a question of setting up the next step in my FIL's care. My inlaws depend entirely on their Social Security and have zero savings and no long term care insurance. But they do own their trailer and the land it's on, and when we all tried to convince my BIL a few years ago to sell the home and set them up in an apartment at least, he would not have the battle with them. They are the textbook example of no planning and no solutions. I feel bad for my BIL, but he insisted on handling everything with no input, and his plan was to assume that one of my inlaws would die, break a hip or injure themselves and they could go in a Medicaid nursing home. At this point, everyone knows my inlaws should not be living on their own and should at a minimum have some sort of in home care, but there is no money at all, and the ideal solution would be to have them move in with a family member. But the only one close is my BIL and his wife has stated in no uncertain terms that is not an option. Which I don't blame her one bit. This situation has been a real eye-opener about what really happens with the super-elderly, that is the term their doctor's use because of their ages, when they have no resources and have something like Alzheimer's. You are so right, it is heartbreaking and difficult to watch. I adore them, especially him because I lost my dad young, and my FIL is like my own dad.
Financial concerns have zero to do with the concern you raise about the intention to purchase a gun. Someone needs to see to it that your FIL is deemed legally incapacitated by a court so that he has no ability to legally purchase any firearms and any that he is known to own can legally be removed from his possession. Just because your BIL buries his head in the sand and you feel safe because you and yours are far enough out of firing range is no reason to allow a dangerous situation to put a lot of people at risk. Your IL's financial situation will be much worse if FIL succeeds in his efforts to procure a weapon and shoots someone.
Good call.Just putting this here for later..
Ah, if only...:I was just coming here to do the "rule".
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Ah, if only...:
google cache is your friendWe were all being played..I should have kept it.