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[C.Ann]

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[kdibattista]

C.Ann - I am so sorry you are going through this. This is the last thing you and your family need to worry about. I would really, really suggest trying to find a new job but if that is out of the question, just ask them point blank. What can happen??? They say no. It never hurts to ask!!!

P.S. How is your daugher?

 

[JasonLyons]

you first need to flirt with your boss

 

[AnnMorin]

I would just go to your boss and present your situation just like you did on the board. Since the company is accustomed to odd hours it is not a crazy request!

 

[marlasmom]

Just wondering what happened to the job you interviewed for. I think it was with a hospital. It seemed like a better bet.

 

[newmousecateer]

I agree C.Ann....just ask. See what they can work out for you.

 

[ChibiJones]

Given what you've posted about this place, I think you should wait until after your probationary period ends. After that ends, they need to have a reason to fire you. They generally can get rid of you without cause during your probationary period. Since you need the job & your DD doesn't need you until late May or June, I don't think it would hurt to a month before asking about modifying your schedule. That would still give them over two months to work something out.

I hope you find a better job in the meantime. This place sounds like its run by a bunch of losers.

 

[disykat]

I know that you're not crazy about this job, and my opinion will probably not be popular. I just wondered - shouldn't DD be the one having the discussion with her employer? Do you need your job less than she needs hers?

 

[addicted_to_WDW]

C.Ann, I know your daughter has been ill, but it also seems like she tries to take advantage of family. She should find a sitter or a day care and you should keep your job. You need it.

 

[jfulcer]

Originally posted by disykat
I know that you're not crazy about this job, and my opinion will probably not be popular. I just wondered - shouldn't DD be the one having the discussion with her employer? Do you need your job less than she needs hers?

I agree here. Why is it YOUR responsibility to take care of her child? Besides obviously it being your grandchild? I know the urge to want to help is <i>very</i> strong but shouldn't she and her DH try to work something out with their employers? Can't she take Mondays and he take Fridays? I currently work a 4 day week and am off on Wednesdays to stay home to watch DD. Yeah, I work longer hours on those other days and that pushes back our normal dinner time, but a Dad has to do what a Dad has to do.

Even if they can only cover '1' day, that will make it a lot easier for you to go to your employer and ask for only one day instead of two. I agree with ChibiJones that if you do end up needing to ask, I would do it after the probation period ends.

 

[TRAPPED-PARENT]

I have to agree ... this is DD's responsibility.

I'm from a big family and continued to work after my children were born. I paid for good daycare. One of my sisters, however, continued to sponge off family members for daycare.

Basically she is a user.

Her kids are now older so don't need daycare. Even though my dad has only months to live, this sister only goes to visit them when she needs something. Others, like myself, visit regularly knowing that time is short.

If you can help without jepardizing your job, go for it - however, it is time for DD to grow up and manage her own affairs without Mama coming to the rescue.

 

[Pin Wizard]

I bet you were there for your daughter and grandkids when you weren't working. She's used to it I'm sure. I'm sure day care centers in the area would take DGD 2 days a week. I know ours here works with the parents. It might even be a good experience for her to be in that environment with other kids. I wouldn't think of asking my parents to take DS if they worked. Good luck! If you do it, I would also wait until your probationary period is over. But give them as much notice as possible. They'll appreciate that.

 

[TRAPPED-PARENT]

Another thought ....

Not knowing anything about your relationship with your daughter, I'd like to add another story ...

My SIL ALWAYS took advantage of her parents - over the years to the tune of several thousands of dollars. In the end she had no respect for her parents and did not visit them the last two years of their lives when they were in assisted living. Even when she knew they were dying, she said she couldn't afford the $7 in gas to see them.

Lesson - its okay to help your kids if you are able, but don't put your life on hold or become a door matt in the process.

You mention that both your DD and her husband work ... well ....

I know this sounds harsh, but it is very painful to watch someone who's done so much out of love not only get stabbed in the back but stomped on too!

 

[Disneylvr]

This is just my opinion, but I don't think you should do anything to jepardize your job especially before the probationary period is over. You yourself said, "I really need this job."

Both my parents and in-laws have made it clear to their children that they weren't going to be available for regular babysitting. They raised their kids and this is their time to enjoy being free to work, volunteer, go to the movies, vacation or just veg out at home whenever they want to do without planning around children. They earned this right and so did you. My parents and in-laws are both very willing to babysit occasionally for an evening or weekend day out or in a pinch, but not on a regular basis.

I know you love your DD and your GD with all your heart, but this is her responsibility to solve. I know she has been through a rough illness but this hasn't been an easy time for you either. Please take care and do what is best for you and your DH whether that means not babysitting or babysitting. And don't feel guilty about your decision!!!!!

 

[mum4jenn]

I am in agreement also with everyone else. It IS your DD's responsibility. I know that you try to help everyone and you are stressed from it but I would let dd and her dh take care of it. Most daycares have a drop off rate that is much lower than the weekly fee.

 

[C.Ann]

Lol