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[Jenny-momof3]

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[kamik86]

Yes I think she would (I don't think she should but there are alot of things that don't work the way I want them to)

I am pretty sure as far as the gov. is concerned he is just a roomate and thus has no obligation to buy her food or pay her part of the rent thus she can get food stamps, etc. Actually I think it still would be this way even if he was the father of the child.

 

[PRmamiDEdos]

The bigger question here is does this affect you? If it doesn't, leave it alone. If she chooses to live off the gov't teat then there's nothing you can do about it.

 

[Jenny-momof3]

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[ols386]

I don't know where she worked or how much money she earned, but if it was a low-paying job, she might have ended up paying more for child-care while she worked, than what she would have made by working.

 

[PRmamiDEdos]

It does affect me in that I've provided childcare and assistance with many items for the child. And morally I think it's wrong to "live off the system" when you're completely capable of working!

Her food stamps were more than I pay for a months worth of groceries for my family of 6! Granted I coupon, stockpile,etc. to get good deals but it's ridiculous!

If you feel like she's cheating you then don't help her anymore. I have a cousin who did the same thing and as much as she cried poor, we just didn't help. Some people will just cheat the system and are lazy and don't want to work. There's nothing you can do to change that. Just don't contribute financially to her anymore and if she needs childcare, say no. I wish I could get food stamps, hell, just enough for milk, bread and eggs would make me happy, but I can't so I'll just keep making DH go to work everyday so he can afford them, LOL.

 

[Hannathy]

The bigger question here is does this affect you? If it doesn't, leave it alone. If she chooses to live off the gov't teat then there's nothing you can do about it.

It affects all of us when someone cheats the system. It also affects the people who actually need the assistance since there is less for the truly needy.

 

[LuvOrlando]

"The system" was set up to protect people who were on hard times, I don't think it was ever intended to be a lifestyle (well maybe some did but that's not the thinking that got "The System" through"). Now that we have a large number of good hard working people who genuinely have fallen on a real life rough patch we have no place to put them do we? The lifers are living in the homes intended as a stop gap, taking up precious resources and squandering away whatever they are given with no intention of ever aspiring to more. On one hand it has nothing to do with me so why should I care, but on the other hand I guess it could be me in a year or 2, who knows where life will bring me, and to know there is no place for me & my family even though we have paid thousands upon thousands into a system that is supposed to be there "FOR ME" ticks me off, not just a little but a lot.

I often wonder how long it will be before the people who are out of work turn on the lifers who are taking up what is really theirs. If the predictions are right about how much worse the country is going to get (the Dollar and the US's rating is even on the skids) it's only a matter of time.... I'd be lying if I said it wasn't weighing heavily on my mind as a concern. I don't think the issue is going to end well, the clashes will come when the foreclosures resume

 

[TLSnell1981]

There is no way, anyone can 'live off the government'. Food stamps and welfare payments do not provide enough for basic needs. MO

Most recipients are required to work or attend (approved) school, unless they are enrolled in a substance abuse program, or a single parent with a child under one year old. All persons, living in the household, are required to produce SS numbers and proof of income. So, boyfriend's income will count.

 

[PRmamiDEdos]

It affects all of us when someone cheats the system. It also affects the people who actually need the assistance since there is less for the truly needy.

What I was trying to say is there's nothing you can say to convince her otherwise. Some people just have the "I shouldn't have to work" mentality.

 

[Jenny-momof3]

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[Kasmooth]

The income of the boyfriend would probably only come into play if she is actually truthful and tells them he is living there.

 

[HannaBelle]

The bigger question here is does this affect you? If it doesn't, leave it alone. If she chooses to live off the gov't teat then there's nothing you can do about it.

It is the business of every single tax payer when the government is taking money out of our pockets to support an able bodied citizen who CHOOSES not to work.

 

[ols386]

She's in school...going for free of course. I can't go for free because my DH makes too much money. But she gets it for free because she doesn't make any!

She has no housing costs...boyfriend pays for all of that since he was paying all of it before she moved in anyways. So now "we" pay for her food, etc.

Oh well...like the PP said...there's nothing I can do about it. But I guess I just needed to vent more than anything else.

Well, hopefully if she's going to school, she will reach a point where she will be able to use whatever she's going to school for, to get a job.

I wouldn't have a problem with someone in her position going to school for "free" as long as when she's finished with school, she'll use her education to get a job. But with unemployment being what it is right now, there are many many individuals with college degrees who aren't even able to get a job.

 

[ols386]

It is the business of every single tax payer when the government is taking money out of our pockets to support an able bodied citizen who CHOOSES not to work.

The thing is, there are many well-educated people who cannot get jobs right now. Many of them don't "choose" not to work, they would love to work, if they could find/get a job.

 

[Hannathy]

The income of the boyfriend would probably only come into play if she is actually truthful and tells them he is living there.

Ding ding ding we have a winner! Yep bet you her food stamps for the month she is not telling them about him.

 

[luvsJack]

And the boyfriend may not make enough for her to lose her benefits. Just having a man in the house does not necessarily make one not qualify. Many, many two parent/adult housholds are on government assistance even when one or both have an income.

If she is going to school for free (and, incindently, fa is FOR those without income or much income, it would be kind of silly to give it to people who make too much) either she will get an education and be able to work for a living wage OR she will end up not being able to get financial aid anymore. You can't just go to school for the money anymore. At least not for long.

If you think she is taking advantage of you, don't give her anything. But, unless you find out exactly what her bf is making, you cannot determine that she is actually cheating the system.

 

[ols386]

And the boyfriend may not make enough for her to lose her benefits. Just having a man in the house does not necessarily make one not qualify. Many, many two parent/adult housholds are on government assistance even when one or both have an income.

If she is going to school for free (and, incindently, fa is FOR those without income or much income, it would be kind of silly to give it to people who make too much) either she will get an education and be able to work for a living wage OR she will end up not being able to get financial aid anymore. You can't just go to school for the money anymore. At least not for long.

If you think she is taking advantage of you, don't give her anything. But, unless you find out exactly what her bf is making, you cannot determine that she is actually cheating the system.

Those are good points.

 

[lillygator]

It is the business of every single tax payer when the government is taking money out of our pockets to support an able bodied citizen who CHOOSES not to work.

yep -steak on the state!

 

[EMom]

There is no way, anyone can 'live off the government'. Food stamps and welfare payments do not provide enough for basic needs. MO

Most recipients are required to work or attend (approved) school, unless they are enrolled in a substance abuse program, or a single parent with a child under one year old. All persons, living in the household, are required to produce SS numbers and proof of income. So, boyfriend's income will count.

Seriously? PLENTY of people do it. PLENTY. They've raised scamming to an art form.