123 Magic, Has anyone attended or used their study guide?

[Spinning]

Our young family group at church is interested in hosting a parenting class. I know this method has gotten great reviews. They have a study guide, video and books to us for a work shop. I was wondering if anyone has attended one and knows if it would be able to facilitate by one of our parents. Any input would be great.
I did check the web site and called but the lady on the phone was very vague about information.

 

[Michelle]

I have the book but never attended a seminar.

As does everything regarding discipline techniques with my daughter, this one worked for about two weeks. I know other people have great success with it so I hope it works for you; it just was not the total success for us that I had hoped it would be.

 

[Snow White]

The case workers in our office use that method and video with a lot of our clients, it usually has great results!

 

[janette]

I've seen the video as part of a parenting class. It does have a good approach, I've found it works best for some things. Another one that I found helpful and a different approach is Choices, Cookies & Kids Video By Dr. Garry Landreth, the description says

Dr. Landreth introduces a creative approach to discipline in which he emphasizes choice giving as the basis for providing boundaries, and limitations on behaviors. This approach is based on the understanding that choice giving teaches decision making and promotes self-responsibility and self-control.

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I don't know that there is any one method that will work for every occassion, helps to have several available

 

[Spinning]

Thanks everone. We also attended a really good one How to talk so kids will listen! it was excellent but the leader was great.
Anyway do you feel a parent could lead the group? Or do you think it needs someone who has more experience teaching/lecturing moving the class along? Or a parent who is a wee bit more seasoned! most of us have kids under the age of 7.
I guess my biggest concern is that I feel you did need a wide variety of approaches and be able to change as your kids do....so I am worried that if we don't use someone who is more versed it could get off track easily.

 

[December99]

I did attend a thing at our hospital that was actually done by Tom Phelan explaining the reasoning and uses of 1-2-3 Magic. This was AFTER I had started using it and had seen the video. My dd is ADHD and it helped ALOT!!! I still find myself using it in a varied way now that she is older.

The whole thing behind it is after you do the "time out" procedure or you hit 3 and go ahead with your discipline (usually a time out) you DO NOT discuss the incident with the child. It allows it to not be "drug" on and on and start an "arguing" phase about the incident.

It really is a good program IF you MAKE it work. Another thing he suggests is, if you get the video, to have your kids sit down and watch it - or parts of it (it's long) so they KNOW what is going to be happening and they understand some of the reasoning. I did this with my dd and she was about 5 - wasn't a problem.

One thing you have to remember is you have to use consistency - you can't do this one time and then not do it the next. So once you start it you need to be committed to it. If you have any more questions, please pm me and I'll see if I can help.