My daughter is getting married Saturday. My dear friend of 25 years did not go to her shower or even acknowledge her shower 4 weeks ago. I received a text the day before the shower from my friend saying she could not go since she didn't feel well. Her sister ended up spending $30.00 for her meal. I did not say anything. I did not want to be petty.
Fast forward 4 weeks later. I just received a text stating that she can't come to the wedding. She's saying she smashed her car and can't drive it at night, she was going to camp, but the camper has water damage, she can't afford a hotel, she can't sit for that long (she lives an hour and a half from the hotel), life is kicking her ***. It’s too late to cancel her meals for the reception. It's a buffet so we can't bring the meals home with us.
Her husband was supposed to come and he has a vehicle. They did not even try to book a hotel. The camper has had water damage for months. If these were issues she should have told us months ago so we did not include her in the wedding. Meanwhile she is posting on Facebook that she is going out every night and has at least 4 to 5 people come over on the weekends for entertaining.
Her and her husband have no mortgage and a household income of $90,000. They told their nearly adult children they are not going to pay for college since they have no money and only paid for their property taxes for one of the past 5 years. She is always stating she has no money. However, she also knows that if she came and brought a small gift that we would not care less. I’m just frustrated that we are basically throwing $100.00 away and money is an issue for us right now.
I'm upset with both the fact that she came up with such lame excuses and the lost money. We kept the wedding small for financial issues and my friend knows this.
I am ready to text her and state did you realize that your inconsideration costs us over $100.00? I know how this sounds, but I am steaming. Please advise me on what to state in a text. I can't call- she won't answer her phone until after the wedding. I know I may be petty, but how do I get over feeling this way? Thank you for any advice!
Fast forward 4 weeks later. I just received a text stating that she can't come to the wedding. She's saying she smashed her car and can't drive it at night, she was going to camp, but the camper has water damage, she can't afford a hotel, she can't sit for that long (she lives an hour and a half from the hotel), life is kicking her ***. It’s too late to cancel her meals for the reception. It's a buffet so we can't bring the meals home with us.
Her husband was supposed to come and he has a vehicle. They did not even try to book a hotel. The camper has had water damage for months. If these were issues she should have told us months ago so we did not include her in the wedding. Meanwhile she is posting on Facebook that she is going out every night and has at least 4 to 5 people come over on the weekends for entertaining.
Her and her husband have no mortgage and a household income of $90,000. They told their nearly adult children they are not going to pay for college since they have no money and only paid for their property taxes for one of the past 5 years. She is always stating she has no money. However, she also knows that if she came and brought a small gift that we would not care less. I’m just frustrated that we are basically throwing $100.00 away and money is an issue for us right now.
I'm upset with both the fact that she came up with such lame excuses and the lost money. We kept the wedding small for financial issues and my friend knows this.
I am ready to text her and state did you realize that your inconsideration costs us over $100.00? I know how this sounds, but I am steaming. Please advise me on what to state in a text. I can't call- she won't answer her phone until after the wedding. I know I may be petty, but how do I get over feeling this way? Thank you for any advice!
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