I really think you need to let this go. Do you want to risk a family rift?
Many weddings do not include kids. I agree with the others who've said you should get a sitter and enjoy an evening out with your DH.
And as someone else also said, kids are also often bored at wedding receptions. We went to a kid friendly wedding in March. They had a table with Legos and coloring books for the kids and even a child meal option for dinner. And guess what? My kids (including the 13 year old) got tired and wanted to leave by 9:00, as soon as they had their cake.
Really, take the opportunity to have fun without your DD, and please do not tell her that she is missing something great. Tell her it will be a boring party with adults sitting at tables and talking and eating mediocre food, and that she'll have more fun doing whatever you plan for her that evening.
Many weddings do not include kids. I agree with the others who've said you should get a sitter and enjoy an evening out with your DH.
And as someone else also said, kids are also often bored at wedding receptions. We went to a kid friendly wedding in March. They had a table with Legos and coloring books for the kids and even a child meal option for dinner. And guess what? My kids (including the 13 year old) got tired and wanted to leave by 9:00, as soon as they had their cake.
Really, take the opportunity to have fun without your DD, and please do not tell her that she is missing something great. Tell her it will be a boring party with adults sitting at tables and talking and eating mediocre food, and that she'll have more fun doing whatever you plan for her that evening.