First, some background. When DD was a junior in high school two of her friends (twin girls) turned 18 at the end of April (also their junior year). We knew both girls really well as they spent quite a bit of time at our home. Their mother and step-father decided to move over 18 hours away and the girls were told youre 18 and adults now, you figure it out. We ended up taking both girls in. They stayed with us for a bit over two years, through their first year of college. During this time frame mom never visited, helped with their support, nothing. She didnt come for high school graduation, never sent birthday or Christmas gifts, nothing. There was some limited telephone contact.
After the two years, their mom and step-father moved back to the area. Both girls moved back in with them. A year later the mom and step-dad decided to move again, more than 30 hours away. At that time the girls went into a shared apartment/roommate situation. After a year mom & step-dad moved back again.
One of the girls got married during their year away (mom didn't come to the wedding). Shes no longer going to school, but is working full time and doing well. The other one moved back in with the mom and step-dad. The roommate situation didnt work out well for her at all. It sounds to me like most everything was in her name and she got stuck with a bunch of bills.
The married twin is now pregnant and her husband lost his job. She and her husband moving in with the mom & step-dad who are now kicking the other twin out because they dont have enough room. Evidently theyre in a two bedroom apartment. The kicked out twin has been looking for a place to go, but has been unsuccessful. She works two part-time jobs, is still in school, and has been trying to pay off all the bills she got stuck with. We live in a high cost of living area and she just cant afford to go into an apartment on her own. She's been "couch surfing" for the last week or so.
We offered to have her move back in with us. It will be temporary as we plan to move out of the area ourselves next year, but it would give her a year to get her finances in order and save some money and hopefully find a roommate.
Yesterday I got a friend request from the mother on Facebook (which I almost never go on - I was alerted by e-mail) with a note that said Before you get involved in our family situation you need to call me. With her telephone number. My gut reaction is to ignore her. I really have nothing to say to this woman. Ive never spoken with her before and I dont think I need to now. I have no intention of involving myself in her family situation, Im merely giving her child a safe place to stay. This is the woman who had 6 children, gave the first three up for adoption when they were 1 (twin boys) and 3 (boy) when she got divorced from the first husband because she couldnt handle them and split up the twins, the 4th son from husband #2 is in jail, the girls are from husband #3 and shes on husband #4.
So would you call her or ignore her?