If it were a very serious issue between them, I'd choose my kid hands down.
I'd be so honored and I'd definitely do it, beaming with pride!
Even if his Mom isn't at weddin get- will his other relatives be there?
Would they be offended by you playing the part of the Mom?
I guess it depends on why they threw the kid out and ignored him
When is the wedding? Things between the two boys may be different by then. I would be in the wedding as requested. This boy is a son to you.
ok, confession, I actually know what I'm doing. Heck, got married,had a baby, got divorced, bought a house & got recently engaged without DIS advice but I just wanna here perspective.
So I got a wedding invitation from a friend of my DS, he is more to me than that. We took him in for 6 year when his Mom's husband threw him out at 17. He stayed for through HS graduation, through trade school & I was present not his "parents" at both grads.
Problem - he and my DS are having a tiff. It is stupid to me, but to the young & dumb it seems to matter. He said something about DIL, my DS said something about his fiancée. None of which I know is true on either side.
Now dilemma, marrying guy wants me to essentially be mother of groom, aisle, dance, toast etc. My DS is being all - DON'T!!!! My DIL is acting 12, the fiancée is acting 16. They are all late 20s, one just 30.
Now WWYD?
Even if his Mom isn't at weddin get- will his other relatives be there?
Would they be offended by you playing the part of the Mom?
I guess it depends on why they threw the kid out and ignored him
They don't ignore him. He has a relationship with them albeit tense & aloof. It's more like pals.
He was thrown out because it was small house & he slept in what essentially a closed in porch. New husband wanted the space for his sports den aka man cave.
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still the $65 Thousand dollar question is-
Will SHE be there?
I can NOT imagine the hurt she will feel if someone else is doing the Mom things.
nevermind.......you answered
there WILL be fireworks
Who knows? There are about a million scenarios that could happen and there's never a 100% wrong or right in any given situation. If my kid was wrong in a very grievous way I'd let them know about it.Just curious, what if "your kid" was dead wrong?
ok, confession, I actually know what I'm doing. Heck, got married,had a baby, got divorced, bought a house & got recently engaged without DIS advice but I just wanna here perspective.
So I got a wedding invitation from a friend of my DS, he is more to me than that. We took him in for 6 year when his Mom's husband threw him out at 17. He stayed for through HS graduation, through trade school & I was present not his "parents" at both grads.
Problem - he and my DS are having a tiff. It is stupid to me, but to the young & dumb it seems to matter. He said something about DIL, my DS said something about his fiancée. None of which I know is true on either side.
Now dilemma, marrying guy wants me to essentially be mother of groom, aisle, dance, toast etc. My DS is being all - DON'T!!!! My DIL is acting 12, the fiancée is acting 16. They are all late 20s, one just 30.
Now WWYD?
Honestly No one knows all the details of every thing that goes on between people-even THIS situation. To you it is stupid....it may NOT be "stupid" to them.Problem - he and my DS are having a tiff. It is stupid to me, but to the young & dumb it seems to matter. He said something about DIL, my DS said something about his fiancée. None of which I know is true on either side.
?
still the $65 Thousand dollar question is-
Will SHE be there?
I can NOT imagine the hurt she will feel if someone else is doing the Mom things.
nevermind.......you answered
there WILL be fireworks