Well, it's hard to say if my feelings would have been hurt. But if your feelings are hurt, then your feelings are valid.
What I see in your post is that you and your husband have VERY different ideas about anniversaries. Some people want a lot of flourish on wedding anniversaries and some people think getting all fussy on a specific day on the calendar is a little weird. Neither person is wrong.
A few things need to happen here. First, you need to figure out if your husband treats you well on the other 364 days of the year. Do you feel loved and cherished and happy in your marriage? If so, then maybe you need to realize that he's not going to be the guy who is going to make big plans on this day.
Or, you can tell your husband that anniversaries on the EXACT day are very important to you and it bothers you when he doesn't recognize it. It wouldn't be hard for him to try to make a special effort every year either.
You just need to figure out how you're going to communicate over this and get it out in the open rather than walk around feeling hurt.
I swear this is one of those things that needs to be addressed in pre-marriage counseling. People who require romance and attention on specific days should NOT marry people who find that stuff difficult to do and vice versa. It gets to be a real sore spot.
Usually I am ok with whatever and get over it very quickly. But we had been talking for at least 3 years about our 10th. That was when we was going to do something big - not just go out to eat. We both know that our daughters birthday does make it hard as we want to celebrate with her especially since she just turned 6.
But he knew what I wanted as I even reminded him couple weeks before of what I expected. But I think I am more hurt over the fact that he didn't even get me flowers or anything.
My birthday is this weekend and I do not expect anything from him as I haven't told him anything I wanted. Because if you do not tell him what you want then 99% of the time you do not get anything. Which is fine because if I truly want something - I can just go get it.