I have had that "something is just not right" feeling about DD10 since she was a baby. She has had a few developmental delays but always catches up on her own schedule and gets to where she needs to be eventually. School is getting harder the last 2 years and she will start middle school next year. She has a big problem with classroom tests. I just had a Child Study Meeting at the school to discuss my concerns and see if the school will test but didn't get anywhere, even though I had the teacher's support. She actually compensates very well for most of the issues that I see, and her teacher is providing some accommodations for her on her own. Her grades are great and her standardized test scores are all average or above. Yep, on paper she looks like a perfect student. But that doesn't reflect that she fails many tests -- and then they have her make corrections to bring the grade up, and that we do a whole lot of reteaching at home and the stress and frustration she is showing at home. She does okay on Standardized tests because she doesn't have much trouble with multiple choice. Next year she won't get much one on one help at school like her teacher is giving her now (30 kids to a class in Math and English ), tests will not be unlimited time like she is getting now and I really think we are going to see things get bad. The majority of her grade now is from homework and projects which she gets 100 on so the bad test grades (and subsequent corrections) just mean she gets a B on the report card despite actually failing nearly every test. I know in the Middle School the majority of the grades are based on tests and quizzes, often given at a rate of 1 each every week for each class. I have been doing a lot of research and I really think that she has Word Finding Difficulties (thus why multiple choice tests are no problem, but fill in the blank is darn near impossible for her) and possibly dyscalcula (Math LD). She fits every profile that I read on those two things. She has been dx with IBS due to stress, but she seems to be a very happy and laid back child. I think that she is feeling stressed because she too knows that something is wrong but isn't really sure what and it is frustrating her. So should I go ahead and have private testing done and see if they find anything, so that we can offer more focused help at home and can be prepared if she starts failing in the next year or so when things get way more difficult? Or, since the school won't really recognize or do anything even if we can show she has a dx just wait until she tanks everything and then push for them to test and see what happens? I am worried that by the time the school does anything she will be way to far behind to catch up and emotionally and mentally scared from the frustration. Is there any value in testing just to have a dx, or to rule everything out? Right now I wonder if it is worth it just for MY peace of mind after 9 years of worry.