I agree with the statement that some people would be disappointed that their closest loved one ignored their wishes. I think it WOULD BE UNUSUAL if it didn't make people rethink their relationship. Forgiveable, yes, but certainly upsetting if you feel you aren't being listened to in your closest relationship.
I see women on this board all the time crying about how their loved ones didn't GUESS what they wanted. They actually get sympathy from some. Now we have someone telling their spouse exactly what they wanted (or didn't want in this case) and many think it's fine to ignore them and do want THEY want.
If I were the OP, I'd tell my husband what was coming to take the surprise element out of it.
I've had surprise parties and I've been a good sport because I know it was a sign that the people who planned them just didn't know me very well and may have thought they were doing it for my pleasure. ( Actually I think they just thought it would be fun and didn't stop to think that I might not) I would have questions if my dh did it.
When I talk about my 40th birthday, I still say I went to Las Vegas with my husband. That is where I went to avoid a party, but some insisted on doing it early. They even did it on Halloween. I can't stand Halloween and everyone knows it. And yes, I was uncomfortable with the photo montage of my life. I hate having my picture taken and having them displayed was uncomfortable. I "took my medicine" and was pleasant about everything, but it does still make me uncomfortable to even think about it.
I don't think anyone is saying this is "deal breaker" stuff. The OP asked if anyone would be mad and some of us can honestly say yes.