I couldn't agree with you more about the rope drop myth!
For our first WDW trip I did a HUGE amount of research & every one of the 5 guide books I read, as well as just about every "mouse centered" website I browsed, advocated that you absolutely
MUST be at rope drop or else risk having completely wasted your ticket for the day due to the enormous queues that would have supposedly formed prior to your arrival & you subsequently getting to ride/do nothing at all.
Our first trip turned out quite miserable because of this advice: we were up at the crack of dawn each day, mostly skipped breakfast & was diligently at rope drop each morning just to be greeted by loooong lines of very impatient & often quite rude people who constantly shoved, pushed, bumped you with strollers & scooters from all sides... it astounded us every morning to experience how people completely lost all their manners in their haste to hop from attraction to attraction as if their lives depended on it! Another downside to being their at rope drop is that the days get incredibly long if you still want to hold out to see the fireworks at night. We really had very little fun doing Disney that way...
We've now been back to WDW 3 more times since then. We do it very differently now & really get to savour/ enjoy our Disney trips without ending up constantly grumpy & exhausted. We sleep in, have a leisurely brunch, do some shopping if we feel like it & then make our way to the parks during the afternoon hours once the rope droppers have exhausted themselves & have either already left the parks or are busy on the other side of the park. We never experience that insane shoving battle for the attractions anymore & we can stop to take a photo without someone cursing at us for slowing them down.
For the majority of the attractions we're interested in, the queues are never too hectic & if we feel it's not worth waiting that long for a particular attraction, we get a snack, find a shady spot & just take in the Disney ambience or watch the people... we're on our hard earned vacation after all, so what's the fun in rushing it just for the sake of ticking another thing off the list (touring plan)? We'd far rather just actually ENJOY the attractions we do get to do, than to do more attractions & end up enjoying it all much less... and we finish every evening with the spectacular fireworks shows that we now actually have the energy left to enjoy!