WHY does DS5's hernia keep coming back??!!

[jubelee1872000]

I am freaking out. My DS4 (just turned 5 in sep), has inguinal hernia repair surgery in January, and when we went in for his check up, they said a "new" hernia was there. He had to have ANOTHER surgery in April. I am now, feeling and seeing a bulge there again. It is just right of his *****. How many surgeries can he go through?! It is so hard on him and us! I'm sorry for the whining, it is just so stressful thinking about my baby boy being repeatedly put to sleep, cut open, risk of infection, risk of complications, damage to his nerves, risking his future fertility, I can't take it!! I called the doctor and asked if it should still be tender at all, they said possibly due to the fact that there have been two surgeries close together that it still could be. Obviously his muscles there is just NOT strong enough to hold the stitching. The doctor said that they do not use mesh in children because it doesn't work that well because they are growing so fast. Ok, some other technique obviously needs to be used to fix my poor baby. What they heck is it gonna take for it to stop coming back?! I want to take him back to the same surgeon just so I can say SEEEEE it is still there! Why?! And then just go somewhere else. I really thought that he was the best for DS because he is out of Children's Hospital and he is a pediatric surgeon. The only other choices that I had under insurance were general surgeons who work with adults too..Idk what to do..not to mention the cost! We haven't even finished paying off the first and second surgeries! Maybe I need to start drinking or something..?

 

[bittybabygrower]

Insurance has to pay for a second opinion.

 

[chanda7]

My daughter had to have the surgery done two years in a row. The surgeon said he had only had to do it twice about three times in his 20 years of practice. He said he had never had to do it a third time :/