Well I have to chime in here.
The people that care so much is because they think their opinion is all that matters and is right. The end.
I find it very insulting when parents of onlies say that those of us who have more than one child are jealous. I have not ever been jealous of any parent because of the amount of children they have. I think that is ridiculous and condescending. We do just as much and sometimes even more than people we know who have onlies. So I find that agrument very insulting.
On the other end of it- I support anyone's decision to have as many or as little children as they want. I am not them and it is none of my business. I don't tell people they should have more or they should have any. I think each individual needs to decide what is best for them. I could turn this around and tell you about the million rude comments I have gotten from complete strangers because I have a larger family. At the end of the day it is nobody's business. YMMV.
I totally agree with you.
We have 5 children... I wanted 7, yep... 7, but that didn't happen.
Jealous of those who have one child... me... NEVER! I wanted a large family, why would I, or anyone who chose to have a large family, be jealous of those with one child?
And why does it turn to money and what one can give to their "only" child? We travel, wear nice clothes, pay for music & dance lesson, enroll them in every sport, and have two (so far) with 4+ year college degrees, they all have cell phones, DSI's, ipods, etc. And ya know what... that's nice, that's important, but when I count my blessings, I count the love and the hugs, and the laughter, the rewards, and the obstacles and challenges we've overcome, etc.,
X 5.
That said, I respect the freedom for everyone to choose what's right for them... 1 kid, 6 children, childless... I have no reason to judge how many children one chooses to have.