In my opinion, death gets easier as soon as one allows themselves to accept and realize that death is an inherent part of life. We all die! Everyone we have ever known or ever will know will eventually die. It is sad, for sure, but it is part of what makes us human.
I don't mean to say that one shouldn't feel a sense of loss or sadness, just try and reduce the amount of surprise and angst that goes with it. This society acts like it is a terrible thing to die and we must have all done something wrong or just had bad luck that it entered into our field of vision. It cannot be avoided and we would all do ourselves a big favor if we just accepted it and rejoiced in the life lived instead of the anger of a life lost.
As we grow older, we become far more aware of death. It is something that one eventually has to face up too. It's not good or bad, it just is part of our life cycle. I look at the obits just about everyday. Why? Not because I have any morbid curiosity about it, but because it is something that we experience more as time goes on.
I have been asked repeatedly by my Doctor's how I see my future. Well, I'm almost 62 years old and although I do not consider that old, the fact of the matter is that I have a lot more years behind me then ahead. Unless I can figure out a way to live for 124 years, I am way past middle age. They immediately decide that I am depressed and need pills to help me get through it. The fact of the matter is that I am not at all depressed about it. I don't look forward to it, but I am not afraid of it and still hope that it is a while in coming. Not depressed...just realistic.
When one is young the death of someone within their own age window comes not so much as a shock as much as it is personally scary to think that people your own age are passing on. As one gets older we think that although the loss of a contemporary is sad, it also is also a triumph that we have survived beyond them. It becomes personal in a different way. Almost all my relatives that I grew up with as a child are dead now, my parents, my aunts and uncles are all passed, even some of my cousins. At my age you might just as well have a tattoo on your forehead that says "NEXT". You know what, it isn't all that traumatic anymore.