Minnie_me
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Feb 19, 2007
I've been through two divorces, where I was cheated on both times. Before that, I went through my own parents' divorce at a very early age. Trust is very hard for me, and I know that I have abandonment issues. I have been through counseling.
Just this past year, two of my best friends also went through terrible divorces, where the husbands cheated. And to top it all off, my big brother, who I had previously thought was the very best husband and father ever, cheated on his wife with a girl 30 years his junior.
So, I've had it. Trust issues? You bet. I'm having trouble finding reasons NOT to have trust issues! I don't ever want to go through it all again.
I've been divorced for almost 4 years now, and I'm very happy/content with my life. I have two wonderful teenaged daughters, and lots of friends. But everyone seems to want me to remarry. They're convinced I"ll be lonely when my daughters graduate and move out.
But I'd rather be lonely than be cheated on again!
One friend says I'm being a martyr. But I don't think so. I simply think I'm making a choice for my own peace of mind, and for my daughters' stability. I like being single!! Am I the only one?
Just this past year, two of my best friends also went through terrible divorces, where the husbands cheated. And to top it all off, my big brother, who I had previously thought was the very best husband and father ever, cheated on his wife with a girl 30 years his junior.
So, I've had it. Trust issues? You bet. I'm having trouble finding reasons NOT to have trust issues! I don't ever want to go through it all again.
I've been divorced for almost 4 years now, and I'm very happy/content with my life. I have two wonderful teenaged daughters, and lots of friends. But everyone seems to want me to remarry. They're convinced I"ll be lonely when my daughters graduate and move out.
But I'd rather be lonely than be cheated on again!
One friend says I'm being a martyr. But I don't think so. I simply think I'm making a choice for my own peace of mind, and for my daughters' stability. I like being single!! Am I the only one?