No, you're not missing something. We eat like you do and it doesn't work for us either. For one thing, it's too much food. And we're just not foodies- it would not be at all unusual for us to go to a nice restaurant and I would just have salad and a glass of wine (which would be OOP), or split something with another family member. And there's no way all five of us would eat a dessert, unless we were skipping the entree, which we have been known to do.
I like to eat out in order to relax in a nice atmosphere with the family. The DDP would not contribute to that in any way. It would add unnecessary stress and introduce another factor into the planning mix, which I just don't need. As much as possible, I want to eat what I want, when I want to. Even if it's french fries and ice cream for dinner.
Exactly! Not having the dining plan allows for so much freedom - no worries about what we eat, how we eat, where we eat, when we eat! We can cancel an ADR if we want to! We can order apps, skip desert, have desert later, eat at a table service for breakfast (something most on the plan will not do because it lessens the value), eat at places that do not take the dining plan, eat at a bar, have a huge lunch and snack for dinner, oh the choices! We even ate off property at a fine dining restaurant last year because we had friends come down and invite us to dinner!
I guess freedom means different things to each of us. To me the dining plan would be like a leash.