I am going to a memorial service today--my former high school music teacher!! ( I graduated in 1994). She died in jan-her daughter wrote to me then to tell me (i had only been keeping in touch my sending xmas cards to her lately). I sent a sympathy card. The memorial service is now. I asked if i could help or bring anything -they said no its ok -it will be wine and cheese in their garden. DO i bring anything anyways? What is apprpriate?