I think the leader makes all the difference. Our first leader was ok, but I definitely felt like I was attending a meeting. The second leader (and the one we have stuck with) is amazing. She has a lot of energy and everyone really participates in the meeting. In fact, when she was away for several weeks and another leader came in, the meetings had a whole different feel, even though the same people were attending, so that just showed me that the leader really does set the tone. So I don't think there would be a problem with trying out different meetings and find the one that fits your personality and expectations.