You have GOT to be kidding me. Here's what we DO know. There were ill-behaved children who were disturbing other diners and the mother of those heathens showed that the apple did not fall far from the tree. I do not CARE why said children were misbehaving. I do not give a rat's red hiney. If I am dining out, I expect the same from other children as I expected from my own. Behave, keep your rear end in your seat and do not make loud noises. Act in a manner that earns compliments rather than dirty looks. If the child cannot do that, they do not enter a restaurant. Period. If they misbehave, haul them out. It truly is THAT simple.I don't know. Kids and kid noises really don't bother me. When I was working in Toronto last fall, there were always police cars, firetrucks and ambulances going past the restaurants with sirens on, so it's not like a restaurant would otherwise be totally silent.
I read all these posts about "the children should have been home in bed" and "the parents should have properly trained these children." Well, you know nothing about the situation. Perhaps their car broke down nearby and they had to arrange to get it towed and decided they'd better feed the hungry kids while waiting for someone to come pick them up. (Has happened to me.) Perhaps they are in town for a funeral, didn't really know where to go to eat and the hotel suggested this spot, and the funeral is why they are feeling stressed and over-reacted to your daughter's comment. There could be a million factors and yet the instant assumption is that these are self-centred people who are crappy parents.
When you go out in public, things happen. You could be enjoying a peaceful meal and two blocks away a fire breaks out and for the next five minutes all you can hear are sirens. Or the guy at the next table has too much to drink and gets loud and rather obnoxious with his dinner partner. Or the restaurant music changes to a song you hate because it reminds you of your ex. Or the family at the next table includes a grandfather in a wheelchair who has had a stroke and makes random and sometimes loud noises. Or the family on the other side of you includes someone with Tourrette's syndrome who also makes random loud noises and sometimes curses. Or, yes, the family might have a baby or toddler who gets fussy, rambunctious, whatever.
This is life, you know? I totally agree that the parents over-reacted to your daughter's comment, but I also think we don't know what was going on with them that might have caused that response. And I think more tolerance from everyone would be a good thing.
TP
We went to IKEA yesterday and while I realize IKEA is not exactly a swanky place, I was appalled by the behavior of several children and how their parents ignored it. We might as well have been at an indoor zoo. At one point, I said to DH, "We are surrounded by poop flinging monkeys," because that is how they were behaving. My parents would have made my life miserable had I acted that way in a store. There are just too many lazy "parents" these days.