ReneeA
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Feb 9, 2000
I do 85% of the household chores. It used to really bother me, but doesn't as much now. I work 36 hours a week as a RN, and he works 40 hours a week as a project manager for a tile co. Since I only work 3 days a week, I guess technically I have more time to do it...at least that's how he looks at it.
He will help with laundry, but will only wash and then dry them...then toss the piles of clean clothes on the couch for me to fold and put away. He will help with deep cleaning when we are planning to entertain(and does a good job). I will occasionally give him an assignment... especially when I'm working a long stretch and he has days off. Like "Can you clean the bathrooms?" It ends up him rushing around 30 minutes before I get home scrubbing bathrooms, but not cleaning the floors, etc. Kinda halfassed,if you ask me. That's the difference - what if fine to him is not up to my standards and used to be a HUGE bone of contention between us. I've accepted the fact that we just have different views of what's acceptable, and if I want something done to MY standards, either I have to do it or finish up what he's done.
I came to accept that because at least half of the weekend days, I work and he has the kids. They have a great time and he really does the "quality time". He goes above & beyond, and that makes it easier to overlook a messy house when I know not only are the kids well taken care of, but having a wonderful time, too.
He will help with laundry, but will only wash and then dry them...then toss the piles of clean clothes on the couch for me to fold and put away. He will help with deep cleaning when we are planning to entertain(and does a good job). I will occasionally give him an assignment... especially when I'm working a long stretch and he has days off. Like "Can you clean the bathrooms?" It ends up him rushing around 30 minutes before I get home scrubbing bathrooms, but not cleaning the floors, etc. Kinda halfassed,if you ask me. That's the difference - what if fine to him is not up to my standards and used to be a HUGE bone of contention between us. I've accepted the fact that we just have different views of what's acceptable, and if I want something done to MY standards, either I have to do it or finish up what he's done.
I came to accept that because at least half of the weekend days, I work and he has the kids. They have a great time and he really does the "quality time". He goes above & beyond, and that makes it easier to overlook a messy house when I know not only are the kids well taken care of, but having a wonderful time, too.