My dad and I have never been very close. I moved out of my parents' house at 17 because living with them was getting to be unbearable. I started my life at 17, got married at 18, and am doing well now just a couple months from my 21st birthday. I guess it's safe to say that I have changed.. my dad has not.
Well, this evening I went over to my parents' house to pick something up and my dad comes in the room and asks me why I was wearing sweats that are capri length and a t-shirt. It was a lazy day for me and was pretty warm out. I don't have a lot of warm weather clothes. So I told him.. it's warm! I wanted to wear something appropriate for the weather. And he said, "Oh, do none of your warm weather clothes fit you anymore, fatty?"
I was in shock. He hadn't said anything like that to me in a long time. I recently lost a lot of weight and have gained about 25 pounds back.. but I don't look huge. I've been trying to get back on the wagon with weight loss, but I really didn't need that comment from my dad. He said those types of things to me when I was a kid and growing up, but having him say these things to me now REALLY hurts me. And he chose tonight as a good night to say it because my DH wasn't with me.. he was at work. If he would've said anything like that when DH was there, DH would've smacked him upside the head.
Anyone else have family issues like this? Anyone have any advice for me? I cried the entire way home. Maybe it's a little immature to be upset about it, but it's a very sore spot for me.. and I wouldn't be upset if anyone else called me fat. But my dad? That's my dad.. I just want him to accept me.
Well, this evening I went over to my parents' house to pick something up and my dad comes in the room and asks me why I was wearing sweats that are capri length and a t-shirt. It was a lazy day for me and was pretty warm out. I don't have a lot of warm weather clothes. So I told him.. it's warm! I wanted to wear something appropriate for the weather. And he said, "Oh, do none of your warm weather clothes fit you anymore, fatty?"
I was in shock. He hadn't said anything like that to me in a long time. I recently lost a lot of weight and have gained about 25 pounds back.. but I don't look huge. I've been trying to get back on the wagon with weight loss, but I really didn't need that comment from my dad. He said those types of things to me when I was a kid and growing up, but having him say these things to me now REALLY hurts me. And he chose tonight as a good night to say it because my DH wasn't with me.. he was at work. If he would've said anything like that when DH was there, DH would've smacked him upside the head.
Anyone else have family issues like this? Anyone have any advice for me? I cried the entire way home. Maybe it's a little immature to be upset about it, but it's a very sore spot for me.. and I wouldn't be upset if anyone else called me fat. But my dad? That's my dad.. I just want him to accept me.